Navigating the Cultural Transition

It's funny just how much religion permeated every inch of my life growing up. Evangelicalism and fundamentalism don't just involve abstract beliefs, but are actually cultures with their own phrases, activities, and icons. Bible club, church camp, "quiet time," jean's all encompassing. Growing up evangelical or fundamentalist, every single little bit of your life is affected by your family and church's religious beliefs. There are even dialects - jean skirts are more typical of … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: What Helps You Today?

What helps you the most today? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: I sometimes get discouraged about my residual childhood baggage, but it helps to remember how far I’ve come.  I also like to think of all the good things that are in my life now, and remember that I wouldn’t have them if I had stayed in the movement. Libby Anne: Having tasted freedom and the ability to make up my own mind and make up my own decisions allows me to hold up even when things are difficult with family members or frie … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Do You Wish You Could Go Back?

Do you sometimes wish to go “back”? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: The further from the movement I am, the happier I become.  I have never had a desire to return or any feelings of nostalgia about it. Libby Anne: Not recently, no. For a while there though I did sometimes wonder if it wouldn’t simply be easier to step back into good-obedient-daughter-mode. I knew how to wear that hat, and I knew I could put it back on and everything would be right again. Except that it wouldn’t, not internal … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Asking the First Question

What first made you question the beliefs you were raised with? Was this initial questioning a frightening or liberating experience? Joe: I can't put a finger on one experience that made me question my beliefs.  When I mention my beliefs, I must say that I have rejected everything from quiverful and fundamentalist Christianity, all the way to a belief in god.  I reject it all now.  But, with no further ado, I will construct a list of a few happenings that caused me to reject everything. 1.  My … [Read more...]

Suddenly the world got so much bigger

I grew up believing that the world was created in 4004 B.C.E. and that the world would end within my lifetime. In other words, I believed that the entire length of the world's existence would be something just over 6000 years.As a young adult I learned the scientific evidence behind evolution and found that the world was much, much, older than I had ever thought. As I left religion I suddenly realized that this mean that the world was not going to end with the return of Christ, whether … [Read more...]


What I love best about my life today is the absolute freedom I feel. I can believe what I want. I can do what I want. I can wear what I want. I can say what I want. I can be who I want. I cannot emphasize how revolutionary this all is.  When you stop trying to shove yourself into a box, everything suddenly changes. When you allow yourself to ask questions, a whole new world opens up. I so often feel like I'm standing in the middle of a meadow in the spring, whirling in circles and … [Read more...]

Finding Beauty in Life

Sometimes I feel down. There are a variety of reasons for this: a tough day at work or school, a flare up in my relationship with my parents, lack of sleep, gloomy weather, etc, etc, etc. Once upon a time I would have solved my down feelings by spending time reading the Bible and praying, by remembering what Christ did for me and reminding myself that heaven awaits me, and that the Bible urges us to be joyful. I might even have reminded myself that Debi Pearl says that women should be cheerful … [Read more...]