How North Carolina’s HB2 Affects Parents

North Carolina's HB2 naturally falls heaviest on the transgender community. It also affects cisgender people who don't conform to specific gender norms about appearance, especially women with short hair (see, for instance, this article about a short haired woman who was yelled at in a public restroom because she was taken for a transgender woman). One thing I haven't seen much talked about, though, is HB2's affect on parents. And no, I'm not talking about parents who are transgender or gender … [Read more...]


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The Lie Behind the Transgender Bathroom Predator Myth

Last month, after the North Carolina rushed a bill barring trans people from using the bathroom of the gender they identify as, a transgender man posted this tweet:It's important to note that not every trans man passes as unambiguously as Sheffield, and that there is discussion within the transgender community about the privilege of passing---not every trans person can do it, and some choose not to. Additionally, a growing number of individuals identify as nonbinary, and these … [Read more...]


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We Need to Be Able to Call Out Kim Davis’ Bigotry without Slut-Shaming or Hillbilly-Shaming

By now you've probably all heard of Kim Davis, the Rowan County, Kentucky, clerk who is refusing to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, arguing that her religious beliefs prevent her from doing so. Critics are calling attention to the fact that Davis was married four times as evidence of hypocrisy. But what I want to call attention to is a slightly different issue.Earlier today, fellow blogger Matthew Facciani called attention to the ways some of Davis' detractors have … [Read more...]


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That Jewish-Baker-Swastika-Cake Analogy Is Backwards

I recently came upon this quote by blogger Amethyst Marie: "What I'm really sick of is the "Would you expect a black caterer to work a KKK event?" or "Would you expect a Jewish baker to make a swastika cake?" rhetoric. First of all, you shouldn't have to be black or Jewish to find the KKK or neo-Nazis offensive. Second, WTF is up with this analogy? When have LGBT ever banded together to terrorize, imprison, torture, lynch, or commit genocide against Christians? If anything, the analogy should … [Read more...]


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Talking to Kids about the News

Some years ago I read the book Nixonland. I thoroughly enjoyed it, and the glimpse it provided of the turbulent 1960s. But the book gave me a gift I didn't realize at the time. We all see history happening all around us every day, but we usually don't notice it. Nixonland made me keenly aware of it. Someday a popular history book covering our current period will mention Michael Brown, Dylann Roof, and even Rachel Dolezal. It will mention Hobby Lobby and the birth control mandate, Obamacare and B … [Read more...]


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Gay Marriage and the Freedom to Offend

I recently came upon a blog post titled I've Been Scared to State My Opinion and that Scares Me. In the post the author, a Mormon wife and mother of two (she doesn't give a name, so we'll call her Sarah), explains as follows: I’ve been writing this blog for almost a year now, and in all the time there has been one major hot topic subject I’ve never broached. In fact, I’ve tip toed around it, and specifically avoided it. Even in seminary, I really soft peddled it. Not because I don’t have strong … [Read more...]


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“You Did a Wrong Thing, Mommy”: In Which I Tell My Six-Year-Old That I Went to an Anti-Gay Rally as a Teen

I was raised in very political evangelical home. As a small child, I attended a rally against Hilary's healthcare proposals in the early 1990s, sitting atop my father's shoulders. Before I was ten, I was a pro at working the polls, and would spend all day every election day working a table for the Republicans. Election night, 1994, is one of my most formative early memories. As an older teen I once tried to count how many candidates I had campaigned for, and lost track as the number went into t … [Read more...]


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