Coming Full Circle

As a teenager, I attended an anti-gay "traditional marriage" rally in my state's capital. I listened to the speakers and cheered along with the crowd. After the rally was over, I spoke with press, explaining my opposition to same-sex marriage. At the time, I had never met a gay person, or, at least, I had never met a person I knew was gay. I believed a lot of lies about the "gay lifestyle" and was convinced that gay people were secretly miserable inside.I would never have believed that, a d … [Read more...]


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Marriage Is Not a Magical Social Cure

I recently came upon an article titled "We Can't Let the Family Die," via Ladies Against Feminism. After talking about the decline of marriage rates in the UK, the author, Kathy Gyngell, writes the following: The fact remains that children who grow up with parents who aren't married are more likely to experience the double whammy of fatherlessness and disruption. One in two cohabiting couples splits up before their child's first birthday. Exposed to disinterested boyfriends and multiple carers, … [Read more...]


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Proponents of Marriage Generally Make Marriage Sound Horrible

Suzanne Venker is at it again, this time with a column titled Why Men Won't Marry You. Is it just me, or do people touting marriage manage to make it seem incredibly unattractive? Venker notes that marriage rates are low, and asks why men aren't marrying as frequently as they once were. She offers several answers.1. Because they can: Men used to marry to have sex and a family. They married for love, too, but they had to marry the girl before taking her to bed, or at least work really, really … [Read more...]


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Evangelical Author Shaunti Feldhahn’s Misleading Work on Marriage and Divorce

Ladies Against Feminism recently linked to a Western Journalism article from last year, written by Matt Barber and titled "You May Have Heard That The Divorce Rate In The Church Is 50% . . . Get Ready To Be Shocked." I clicked through because the overall divorce rate isn't 50%, and I've known that for years.  Heck, a New York Times article addressed exactly this myth in an article last year as well:Despite hand-wringing about the institution of marriage, marriages in this country are … [Read more...]


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Dating Is Dead: Long Live Whatever-We-Call-It-Now!

I recently came upon a post by Marshall Segal on John Piper's blog. It began:Dating is dead. So says the media. Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections. Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. I beg to differ. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or t … [Read more...]


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Gay Marriage and the Freedom to Offend

I recently came upon a blog post titled I've Been Scared to State My Opinion and that Scares Me. In the post the author, a Mormon wife and mother of two (she doesn't give a name, so we'll call her Sarah), explains as follows: I’ve been writing this blog for almost a year now, and in all the time there has been one major hot topic subject I’ve never broached. In fact, I’ve tip toed around it, and specifically avoided it. Even in seminary, I really soft peddled it. Not because I don’t have strong … [Read more...]


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Conservatives Grapple with Marriage Equality

Almost as soon as I heard about yesterday's Supreme Court ruling, my mind turned to the ways conservatives would respond. I have not been disappointed. See, for example, this argument from Tony Perkins of the Family Research Council:Five Justices on the Supreme Court have overturned the votes of 50 million Americans and demanded that the American people walk away from millennia of history and the reality of human nature. In reaching a decision so lacking in foundation in the text of the … [Read more...]


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