No, Marriage Does Not “Make” People Healthier

My first grade daughter, Sally, recently asked me to explain the difference between Democrats and Republicans. One of the things I told her was that Republicans want to use public policy to encourage (or coerce) (heterosexual) marriage and believe that everyone would be better off in (first time) married (heterosexual) two-parent families while Democrats tend to embrace a greater variety in family form. I thought of this when I came upon a recent New York Times article, The Ambivalent Marriage Ta … [Read more...]


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Saeed Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Manipulative Abuse of Couples Counseling

Several weeks ago I wrote a blog post about Naghmeh and Saeed Abedini. In that post, I outlined Franklin Graham's response to the abuse allegations Naghmeh Abedini levied against her husband, Saeed Abedini. If you remember, Saeed was an evangelical pastor imprisoned in Iran until from 2012 until last month. Naghmeh spoke of Saeed's abuse in emails to supporters last November, and an evangelical magazine made these allegations public. Despite of the fact that Saeed pled guilty to misdemeanor dome … [Read more...]


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What Do Dating and Grocery Stores Have in Common?

I recently encountered this photo on Facebook:Text reads: "Dating without the intent of getting married is like going to the grocery store with no money. You either leave unsatisfied or take something that isn't yours." -- AnonymousWhaaaaat. Let's deconstruct this, shall we?Why is it wrong to steal food from a grocery store? Because that food belongs to someone else---namely, the owner of the grocery store. What if the grocery store owner decides to give away produce for free, … [Read more...]


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Naghmeh Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Silencing of Evangelical Abuse Victims

Let me start with a word of background. Saeed Abedini converted from Islam to Christianity in 2000. In 2002 Saeed met Naghmeh, an American citizen who grew up in Boise, and together they became active in the Iranian house church movement. They married in 2004 and left for the U.S. when the Iranian government cracked down on this movement in 2005. When Saeed returned to Iran to visit family in 2009, he was detained by authorities and forced to sign a pledge to forgo any house church activities. A … [Read more...]


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Hi! Married Feminist Mother Here!

Last summer Ladies Against Feminism posted an article titled "Speak for Yourself: Why Single Feminists Should Not Speak for Married Mothers." I've been ruminating over this article ever since and it's still bothering me. For one thing, I'm finding it highly ironic that the author of this piece, Marian Shah, is herself not a mother, while I, the feminist in the room, am a mother. For another thing, the author doesn't seem aware of third wave feminism. And finally, the author's words do not … [Read more...]


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Coming Full Circle

As a teenager, I attended an anti-gay "traditional marriage" rally in my state's capital. I listened to the speakers and cheered along with the crowd. After the rally was over, I spoke with press, explaining my opposition to same-sex marriage. At the time, I had never met a gay person, or, at least, I had never met a person I knew was gay. I believed a lot of lies about the "gay lifestyle" and was convinced that gay people were secretly miserable inside.I would never have believed that, a d … [Read more...]


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Marriage Is Not a Magical Social Cure

I recently came upon an article titled "We Can't Let the Family Die," via Ladies Against Feminism. After talking about the decline of marriage rates in the UK, the author, Kathy Gyngell, writes the following: The fact remains that children who grow up with parents who aren't married are more likely to experience the double whammy of fatherlessness and disruption. One in two cohabiting couples splits up before their child's first birthday. Exposed to disinterested boyfriends and multiple carers, … [Read more...]


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