When Marriage Looks Like the Only Escape

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Over the weekend I spent time speaking with yet another young Christian homeschool graduate considering early marriage. We'll call her Jen. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have heard this story. Speaking with this Jen, I was reminded, once again, of my own youthful wedding, and the decisions I made at the time.Jen told me she felt if she got married, her parents would give her breathing room---and stop trying to sabotage her relationship with her boyfriend. The sad thing is, … [Read more...]

Monogamy Isn’t Biblical, It’s Roman

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Here are the first lines of Ken Ham's blog post, "Why Is Marriage Just for Two?" For years I have been asking the question “why only two?” to those people who support gay marriage. You see, the idea of marriage being between only two people is biblically based.  Where to even start?The Bible is a collection of 66 books written by 40 authors over a period of hundreds of years. The Old and New Testament are contradictory on a number of points, such as whether God requires his followers to fol … [Read more...]

Evangelical Christianity’s Patriarchal Alternative to Fifty Shades of Grey

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This is probably the creepiest video you will watch this week:. . . yeah.Old Fashioned is a Christian movie alternative to Fifty Shades of Grey, released the same day last week. In the above video, the producers of Old Fashioned compare the hero of Old Fashioned, Clay, with Christian Grey, and frankly, it's not flattering---to either of them.In fact, I found this advertisement so bad I ended up transcribing it:It’s a hard thing for a dad to accept any man as being worthy of hi … [Read more...]

What I Love about My Feminist Husband

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When I was a teen, my father told me it would take a special kind of man to make me submit. I was headstrong, you see. I was opinionated and bossy. I sometimes envied those quiet, demure girls to whom submission came naturally. That wasn't me.My father couldn't know, then, that the man I would ultimately marry wouldn't expect me to submit to him. I didn't know, then, that I would reject the entire idea of wifely submission before I walked down the aisle. My life changed a lot in the four … [Read more...]

On Responding to Abuse Allegations

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I write a lot about abuse scandals in conservative Christian circles, such as those involving Doug Phillips and Bill Gothard. But it occurs to me that should be willing to write about similar situations within progressive Christian circles as well. If I ignore problems in groups that agree with me while taking on problems in groups I disagree with, I have a double standard. But there's another reason, too, that I want to write today about the current controversy surrounding Tony Jones, Rachel He … [Read more...]

Do Traditional Gender Roles Lead to Good Sex? No.

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I recently read a blog post from several years ago that had me doing that whole "but . . . wait . . . what . . . NO" thing throughout my reading of it. I thought I'd share, because illustrates something we've seen before---the idea that anything good in a marriage must of necessity be a result of following the gender roles God laid out, not, you know, a result of things like communication or compromise. I've covered posts in the past by women who are functionally living in egalitarian marriages … [Read more...]

The Longsuffering Godly Abused Wife

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One thing we read a lot about in Created To Be His Help Meet was how to win an unsaved of sinning husband. Debi's basic advice was to submit, to be subservient, and to obey with a smile. I recently came upon a blog post from this past summer by a woman who claims she followed this advice, and successfully won over her porn-addicted husband. Let's take a look, shall we?The author begins by describing her childhood and teenage years at length. She writes that she was the target of bullying, a … [Read more...]


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