Pastors and Secretaries: Enemies of a Gothard Marriage


I've been under a lot of stress lately and I'm really tired. But I try to put up a post each day to keep things active and maintain the community here, so today you get more from the Bill Gothard textbook I got my hands on. He's just so out there that blogging against his teachings is easier than many other topics, somehow. It's also familiar, in a way. So today you get to find out how pastors and secretaries can be enemies to good, godly marriages.Both of these passages are from the chapter … [Read more...]

“I See Things That Nobody Else Sees”


Melanie Martinez's music video "Dollhouse" is really getting to me. I've watched it multiple times since writing about Cynthia Jeub, and have been struck by how much it speaks to me. Why, you ask? Let me explain. First, the video:Before I get into my story some more, I want to quote from a recent blog post by homeschool graduate Lana. Lana's writing has long spoken to me, and is a story only too common in the Christian homeschooling communities we grew up in. Our family was the center o … [Read more...]

Has Gay Marriage Harmed this Writer and Her Children?

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I recently came upon an article titled "Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me---and Our Children." I was intrigued, because I often hear or read that allowing gay and lesbian individuals to marry harms opposite-sex marriage, but I rarely find any case made for what that harm actually looks like, or how it is caused. The article, by a woman named Janna Darnelle, begins like this:Every time a new state redefines marriage, the news is full of happy stories of gay and … [Read more...]

My First Crush

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Growing up on the conservative Christian homeschooling culture of courtship and purity rings made a lot of things about boy-girl interactions different. Everything was ramped up, accelerated somehow. Our mothers jumped straight from simple attractions on our part to the possibility of marriage. We did too.I still remember my first crush. I was seven. He was nine. I was homeschooled, but he wasn't. My mother and his mother knew each other from church. Finally, I got up the courage to ask him w … [Read more...]

Pastor Mark Driscoll Called Women “Penis Homes”


Things have been getting worse and worse for Mark Driscoll in recent weeks. But what I want to point out for a moment is one of Driscoll's posts from 2001, when he was posting to a church message board under the name William Wallace II. I have rarely seen an evangelical man assert male superiority and prominence this directly. The first thing to know about your penis is, that despite the way it may see, it is not your penis. Ultimately, God created you and it is his penis. You are simply … [Read more...]

How Not to Address Marriage or Child Abuse

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I recently came upon an image posted on facebook by homeschool mom, speaker, and writer Heidi St. John. I'm not sure what's more disturbing---this image, or that none of the moms commenting on it saw this image as disturbing. The image is photoshopped from an old comic that depicts an employee sexually assaulting his "frigid" boss (see here and here or view the full comic here). Sure, one could try to argue that the image has been removed from that context, what with the new words in the bubb … [Read more...]

Israel Wayne on the (Patriarchal) Father’s Role


Israel Wayne is supposed to be a voice of reason in the Christian homeschooling community. A homeschool graduate himself, and now a homeschool father, he travels the convention circuit and has written blog posts criticizing various patriarchal homeschool leaders. It's a pity he's unaware that he is himself one of those patriarchal homeschool leaders.Unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, you’ve heard the smash pop hit, “Rude” by the group Magic!. It speaks about a young man, seeking p … [Read more...]