Mitt Romney Doesn’t Get Women

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There's been lots and lots of talk about Romney's positions on women, especially his anecdote about seeking out "binders full of women" when appointing people to state positions as governor (which by the way turned out to be false).  Frankly, I don't have time to get into everything Romney has said about women, or his flip flopping and double talk about things like insurance coverage of contraception or whether he would work to outlaw abortion. And frankly, lots of other people out there are … [Read more...]

Sex, men, and “giving”

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Yesterday we talked about what it means when evangelicals and fundamentalists speak of a woman "giving" in the context of sex - namely, that it involves a woman "giving" sex to her husband in order to fulfill his sexual needs. Well, I was recently pointed to an article called Necessities for God-Glorifying Sex which speaks of the man "giving." It made me realize that this is something I've seen before. Let's take a look, shall we?First, note that the title of the article - "Necessities for … [Read more...]

Sex, women, and “giving”

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When evangelicals and fundamentalists speak of a woman "giving" in the context of sex, what they mean is that even if a wife would rather be doing something else, she should sublimate her own desires and have sex with her husband in order to meet his need for sex. I've discussed this a bit before.I am terribly uncomfortable with this entire idea because I see sex as something that should be about mutual pleasure and intimacy. I don't see it as something that should be one sided or … [Read more...]

“A truly loving husband won’t take advantage”

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A twitterer recently tweeted this at me: "In marriage it is her duty but if her husband truly loves her he will never make her have sex just because they are married." If I had a dollar for every time someone said something like this, I'd be rich. It goes like this (and Debi Pearl's books are really chock full of it): God requires women to submit to their husbands, but truly loving husbands won't take unfair advantage of that. Let's dissect this, shall we?Requirement: According to t … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Chryssie’s Story


A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.In an effort to be anonymous, I’ll go by Chryssie, and I am 21. I am the oldest of 9; 5 boys and 4 girls. I recently got married as of May, … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Kacy’s Story


A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.I was raised an Evangelical Baptist in the “Bible Belt.”  In high school and college I went through a questioning and discovery period, eventually becoming Conservative Catholic towards the end of my senior year of college.  As a young adult my questioning continued, and although I stil … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture and “Sex Is Beautiful”

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Did you know that Michael Pearl wrote a book called "Holy Sex"? Yes, he wrote a book about how awesome sex is. It's not just Mark Driscoll. There are lots of evangelicals and fundamentalists who have hopped on the sex bandwagon. They see themselves as "sex positive" and believe that it is depraved modern culture that is actually "sex negative." And it's true that I was taught to view sex as a beautiful, sacred thing (within marriage) and that I was taught that once married I would find sex so … [Read more...]