Removing the Romance from Pride and Prejudice

Pride and Prejudice

As the leaders of Christian homeschool movement embrace the (supposedly) virtuous past as a contrast to our (allegedly) hedonistic presence - emphasizing female chastity and male chivalry and even, yes, holding historically themed tea parties - they often seem to zero in on the nineteenth and early twentieth century as a sort of ideal era. And yet, this fascination with the Victorian era, along with the years immediately before and after it, often includes an embrace of literature that seems to … [Read more...]

John Piper on Submission and Abused Women

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Thanks to Sarah Moon, I recently came upon a video from a few years back where John Piper discusses whether God requires married women to submit to abuse at their husbands hands. Piper recently clarified his views, though without really improving them, as discussed by Sarah in this post (which is well worth a read!). See also Dianna Anderson's take (which is also well worth a read!). Honestly, the fact that this sort of question is still considered a weighty and complex matter by a figure as r … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll on Stay at Home Dads

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This video is several years old, but I only just came upon it and I think it's an excellent example of just how rigid many evangelicals make gender roles - and just how hard they work to police them. In this video Mark Driscoll explains not only that men who stay at home with their children while their wives work are, according to the Bible, "worse than unbelievers," but also that men who stay at home are not "real" men and will never have the respect of their wives.Can I say how glad I … [Read more...]

“I Make More Money Than He Does”

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Over the holidays, I made the mistake of bringing up laundry at the dinner table at Sean's parents' house. Sean may not have grown up in the evangelical homeschool world of Christian Patriarchy that I did, but his mother doesn't work outside of the home and his parents have always embraced fairly traditional gender roles, so I really should have known better. Anyway, I simply wanted to know if Sean had started the load of laundry he had said he would, and to let him know that he would have to … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture’s Mangled Relationship Advice

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Some time ago a reader of this site asked if I could address a concern in his life. He had been pursuing a young lady and beginning to think about marriage, but rather suddenly found that he was no longer attracted to her. She was a godly person and just the kind of woman he could see himself settling down with. But then he looked at her and saw that the physical attracted had just plain disappeared. What could he do? What had gone wrong? So begins a post by evangelical blogger Tim Challies. I … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture and Trust

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I'm afraid I rather made my husband Sean miserable during our engagement and early marriage. For one thing, I found out that he had had sex with a previous girlfriend, and when he wasn't regretful for it, I did everything I could to let him know how much this hurt me in an effort to make him feel guilt and regret. For another thing, given that I was taught both that men constantly think about sex and that my husband thinking sexual thoughts about another woman was the equivalent of adultery, I … [Read more...]

Suzanne Venker’s War on Men

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Suzanne Venker wrote an article called "The War on Men" for Fox News. I decided I would avoid it. Other blogs have it covered, after all. I almost succeeded avoiding the topic until I came upon these quotes from her explanation defending her original piece:  Women should understand that they absolutely can be strong and independent and be married, but that being feminine and vulnerable and taking on that more traditional role as being dependent on a man and letting him have some say in the mat … [Read more...]


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