No Greater Joy on “Tantrums”: Deny Your Children’s Lust

I recently came upon an old No Greater Joy post about tantrums. No Greater Joy, as you may remember, is run by Michael and Debi Pearl, authors of the fundamentalist Christian childrearing manual To Train Up A Child. I was raised on the Pearls' childrearing methods, and much of my own parenting journey has been unlearning the toxic parenting structures the Pearls promote. Anyway, this particular post about tantrums was written by Tremaine Ware, one of the Pearls' assistants.The relevant text … [Read more...]


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Nine-Year-Old Sluts and Masturbating Dinner Guests

While searching for an image to use to illustrate the concept "modesty," I came upon this image:I noticed that the image was from www.nogreaterjoy.org, so I clicked through. The article was titled "Sobering Issues---Modesty." It began with a letter from a woman who had read Created To Be His Help Meet and disagreed with Debi's treatment of Lydia in the story titled "Bad Bob." If you remember, Lydia, the youth pastor's wife, wore a tight skirt which, well, as the story tells it, basically … [Read more...]


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Michael and Debi Pearl’s Life Story on Video

I just found a video of Michael and Debi telling their life story earlier this fall. I haven't watched the whole thing yet, and don't have time to parse through it at the moment. If anyone here wants to post in the comments what is said, or important insights, please do. For some reason, I can't embed it (something about privacy settings), so you'll have to click through to Vimeo to view it.Michael & Debi Pearl: Our Life StoryI do want to make a caveat. No mocking, please. I'm not … [Read more...]


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The Twisted Evil

I write a lot here on the blog about Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet and Michael Pearl's To Train Up A Child. I think it's important to remember that there are people who wholeheartedly believe and follow both books. This isn't some abstract thing. For these individuals and families, this is real life. And the things the Pearls say---things that are, I might add, actually quite widespread in fundamentalist Christian circles far beyond the Pearls themselves---shape the directions of p … [Read more...]


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Lesbians, Satan, Hitler: Debi Pearl Responds To Criticism

I don't know how I missed this short post on the No Greater Joy website a year ago, but I did. I guess I shouldn't be surprised I missed it because I don't read everything posted on the site, and for some reason Why Not To Train A Child only just picked it up today. Anyway, here you go:A Call To StandBy Debi PearlHitler’s propagandists used one of Satan’s choice tools to pull off the biggest crime toward mankind in the history of the world. They used a lie. They taught that if you … [Read more...]


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Spanking Tears

I've written a lot about spanking in the past, but one thing that is difficult is that, for my family, it's not really the past. I am the oldest in a family of over a dozen; many of my siblings are still minors, living at home. My parents still spank. This can make visiting home painful. I keep trying to write about this but I'm having trouble doing it it in my normal fashion. So instead, I give you a series of vignettes---short scenes or conversations from recent visits … [Read more...]


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