Homeschooling under the Influence

After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]


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CTBHHM: Michael and Debi Pearl’s Whirlwind Romance

Created to Be His Help Meet, pp. 13-15 Once upon a time there was a silly young girl who grew up to learn what it means to be a help meet - God's secret for a heavenly marriage. I start this book with the words "Once upon a time" because it really is a wonderful story come true. It should, and could, be your story too. It is God's gift to every woman. This is how Debi begins her introduction to her book, Created to Be His Help Meet. I'm sure a literature major could write yards about the way sh … [Read more...]


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CTBHHM: Michael Pearl’s Stamp of Approval

Created to Be His Help Meet, pp. 13Created to Be His Help Meet, a popular evangelical/fundamentalist marriage manual, begins with a one page introduction by author Debi Pearl's husband, Michael Pearl. This is important, because it signals that Michael approved of his wife's writing a book. In evangelical and fundamentalist circles, whether they embrace "complementarianism" or actually use the word "patriarchy," women aren't supposed to write books, etc., without their husband's "blessing." … [Read more...]


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“Little Bundles of Sin”: Evangelical Child Rearing

I recently ran across a truly excellent article on the politics of the conservative family (seriously, go read the whole thing). I found the section on children and child rearing especially pertinent to my own experiences and a helpful overview of a lot of the particularities of evangelical and fundamentalist views toward children and child rearing. I'm going to quote from this section, pausing every couple of paragraphs for some commentary. ...Drawing in part on their belief in original sin … [Read more...]


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On homeschooled children and being “well behaved”

"Is she homeschooled?""What?" I stammered, looking up from the ribbon I was examining. Sally and I were at Hobby Lobby to pick up some cloth for a project."Is your daughter homeschooled?" It was the store attendant who cuts the cloth in the fabric area who was asking."No," I replied. "Why?""Oh, she acts like a homeschooled child. She's so well behaved, like all the homeschooled children who come in here."I told her about positive parenting and explained what it entailed, and … [Read more...]


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Authoritarian Parenting and Adult Children

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.   I have long wondered why my transition to adulthood has been so difficult. I want to be able to stand by my parents adult to adult, equal to equal … [Read more...]


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Spanking, Fear, and Privileging Obedience

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.   Growing up on Michael Pearl’s discipline teachings, James Dobson always seemed mild in comparison. My impression was always that Pearl was about ab … [Read more...]


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