What’s it take to get kicked out of homeschool prom?

Twighlight in Paris

I'm sure you've already read about this, but my friend Hannah Ettinger's sister Clare was recently kicked out of her homeschool prom this past weekend even though her dress met the dress code requirements. Why was she kicked out? Because the homeschool fathers stationed on a balcony above the dance floor determined that her dress would make their sons lust after her and therefore asked the organizers to make her leave.When Hannah posted her sister's story as a guest post Sunday, I doubt … [Read more...]

The Politics of Middle School Leggings Activism


Somehow I missed Amanda Hess's recent article, Middle-School Girls Picket for the Right to Wear Leggings. It may seem a little thing, but the little things are often also the most achievable. Today Amanda followed up on the issue with another article, Talking With 13-Year-Old Leggings Activist Sophie Hasty. Interviewee Sophie Hastings has only just hit her teens, but I found her amazingly perceptive.First, Sophie explains how she got involved in leggings activism---and why leggings became a … [Read more...]

When “Respect” Involves “Disgust”


Growing up in a conservative evangelical home, I believed that we were the ones who truly respected women. I believed that our young men---the young men in my homeschooling community---were being raised to treat the women around them, of whatever age, with respect. I was wrong, very, very wrong.A reader recently pointed me to an article on World Net Daily that presents a fictional scenario where an "normal" girl, Jane, is ordered by a judge to leave her public school and be educated in a … [Read more...]

Testosterone: Biblical Patriarchy’s Kryptonite


Several weeks ago, I talked to my mom about Doug Phillips' affair and the closing of Vision Forum Ministries. My mom talked about how sad that was, and how bad she felt for Doug's wife and children, all of which I'd been expecting. But she didn't stop there, and I hadn't expected her to."Well," she concluded, shaking her head, "he's male."And she clearly felt that explained it. But I was not content to let that go. "Actually mom, most guys manage to not cheat on their wives," I told her. … [Read more...]

Christian Charm Course: How Feminine Are You?

How Feminine Are You

Last week I promised you to dig up a Christian Charm Course book and share some of what it teaches. My mother taught my sister and I from the book when we were probably 12 or 13, and it is an excellent example of both purity culture and evangelicalism's frequent insistence that women should strive to be traditionally "feminine." I've heard of this book being used both in homeschool settings and in Christian schools, to give an example of its influence.Anyway, I recently found that another … [Read more...]

About That Viral Modesty Video, “Virtue”


As I watched the opening of this viral video, "Virtue," I was excited.Why was I excited? Well, the opening lines go like this: Dressing modest. We know it's rough. When the world's making it so tough. It was all guys! Finally, an equal opportunity video with guys singing about their personal challenges adhering to proper modest standards! Yes, I'm against modesty standards being applied to guys just as I'm against them being applied to girls, but I'm still excited when I actually see … [Read more...]

“Displayed in a Partially Unwrapped Condition”

candy bar

I recently came upon this from an article by Michael Pearl from a few years back: Most “Christian” young people are “damaged goods.” Church youth groups are hotbeds of immorality. And I am not limiting my evaluation just to those that have copulated. Would you buy a candy bar that had not been eaten, but the wrapper had been partially removed? What if it had not been handled, just displayed in a partially unwrapped condition? Would you buy the candy bar if it had not been eaten, but just licked? … [Read more...]