About That Viral Modesty Video, “Virtue”

As I watched the opening of this viral video, "Virtue," I was excited.Why was I excited? Well, the opening lines go like this: Dressing modest. We know it's rough. When the world's making it so tough. It was all guys! Finally, an equal opportunity video with guys singing about their personal challenges adhering to proper modest standards! Yes, I'm against modesty standards being applied to guys just as I'm against them being applied to girls, but I'm still excited when I actually see … [Read more...]


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“Displayed in a Partially Unwrapped Condition”

I recently came upon this from an article by Michael Pearl from a few years back: Most “Christian” young people are “damaged goods.” Church youth groups are hotbeds of immorality. And I am not limiting my evaluation just to those that have copulated. Would you buy a candy bar that had not been eaten, but the wrapper had been partially removed? What if it had not been handled, just displayed in a partially unwrapped condition? Would you buy the candy bar if it had not been eaten, but just licked? … [Read more...]


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FYI (A Letter to My Daughter Sally)

Dear Sally,I saw something today that made me think of you. It was a blog post addressed to teenage girls. Oh I know, you're only four, but in ten years you'll be fourteen. It was that fourteen-year-old you I couldn't help but think of when I read this post, and inside, my heart broke for you.There will be adults in your world who are very concerned about what you wear and how you carry your body and what you do with it. There will be adults in your life who care more about whether you … [Read more...]


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Guest Post: Allowing the Devil To Undress You: The Slut-Shaming of a Former Homeschooler

A Guest Post by Ryan StollarOriginally posted on Homeschoolers AnonymousA disgrace.A destructive force against families.Homeschool dropout.A rat turd.These are but a number of phrases used on HSLDA’s Facebook page in reference to Teresa Scanlan, a former homeschooler attending Patrick Henry College. These are not phrases used by HSLDA; in fact, HSLDA has championed Teresa as a homeschool success story. But these phrases are also not coming from anti-homeschoolers or l … [Read more...]


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My Brothers Too: Purity Culture and Double Standards

Every time purity culture issues come up---purity rings, purity balls, saving your first kiss for the wedding---someone inevitably makes an argument about double standards. Sometimes these commenters are absolutely right---modesty discussions almost without fail involve a double standard---but other times, well, it's not so simple.In the conservative evangelical homeschool circles I ran in as a teen and young adult, boys didn't get a pass on not having sex before marriage. Guys were expected … [Read more...]


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Manly Modesty?

Every time I write about modesty, people comment pointing out that there's a double standard---modesty is about girls dressing a certain way so that guys won't be turned on by women's bodies, and the idea that girls might be turned on by guys is generally left out of the picture completely. In this light, I found a recent article on the Christian Post interesting. Near the end of my pastoral tenure a shift happened I had never experienced in 20 years of ministry. After a sermon in which I … [Read more...]


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How I Used To Dress (with Illustrations)

I recently looked through some old photo albums from my teenage years. Oh, the memories that brought back. Clothing in the conservative Christian homeschooling subculture, especially the quiverfull variety, is quite the topic. I want to use some pictures to illustrate some points here, but I blog under a pseudonym so I really can't use my own pictures, and I don't want to violate some random person's privacy by dipping into google images. So instead I'm going to use some pictures of the Duggars … [Read more...]


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