Worthwhile Reads: The Modesty Survey

I'd like to introduce you to something called "The Modesty Survey." It was put together by the Harris twins (brothers of Josh Harris of I Kissed Dating Goodbye fame). It is composed of dozens of questions about every aspect of clothing imaginable - bathing suit strings sticking out from under clothing, purses with straps diagonally across the front - questions submitted by 200 Christian girls and answered by 1600 Christian guys.The results? We find out things like this: 27% of respondents … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Modesty, Fear, and Exploitation

Sierra on Modesty and False Empowerment If other people can’t listen to your ideas because they’re too focused on your breasts, they are the ones disrespecting you. Changing yourself to suit them does not change their basic lack of respect for you as a person, it just satisfies their demands and causes them to stop pressuring you. That’s not empowerment, it’s just the relative absence of shaming. A Sober Second Look on How We Were Sold On Patriarchal Religion: Reason #142 In a word, fear. … [Read more...]

Feeling Judgement

I just read an interesting post called The Impact on Our Kids: Internalizing Those Judging Eyes. Even though the situation discussed here was one experienced with Islam, I found it easy to identify with. I was walking outside with my daughter last week in a neighborhood we used to live in, back when we lived a conservative Muslim life. It was a hot sunny day, and she was wearing a sleeveless t-shirt and tight pants. There was nobody out on the street except a few teenage boys playing … [Read more...]

Sierra’s Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project

Sierra has just announced that she is starting a project on religious fundamentalism and sexuality, and she's looking for participants. Here is what she has to say about it: If you are interested in participating in a blog series on religious fundamentalism and sexuality, read on! Below are the questions and the guidelines for the project.  Borrowing the format of Libby Anne’s Raised Quiverfull project, I’ll be posting each question and its set of answers multiple times a week, starting June 25. … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: The Impact of Purity Teachings

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Do you feel that the purity and courtship teachings you were raised with still have lasting impact on your life today? If so, how? Joe: Yes.  It caused us to have six children and made my wife scared of sex.  While I love my six children, a smaller family would have been a better choice for both of us.  I, for one, am not cut out for so many children.  Every day is a constant battle of sanity.  And yet, as I said before, I really do love my children.  On the other hand, never does a day go by t … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Looking Back on Purity

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How do you feel about purity and courtship teachings today? Have you rejected some parts of it and kept other parts of it? How do you plan to handle these issues with your own children? Joe: I will and am teaching my children about safety, STD's and unwanted pregnancies.  Also, by just being me, they get to see everything they would never want in a partner.  I want them to experiment and learn how to love another person.  I want them to try things academically, emotionally, and physically.  I w … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Purity, Courtship, and Sex Education

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What were you taught about physical purity, emotional purity, and courtship and dating? How was sex education handled? Joe: Sex was bad.  Sure, it was supposed to be beautiful and all AFTER MARRIAGE, but it was bad until then.  You couldn't talk about it, think about it, read about it, look at pictures about it - or so Mama tried to tell us.  I got all my sexual education from my public schooling, even though Mama made us sit out of sex education.  I knew so much about it that I wanted it.  I w … [Read more...]


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