No Greater Joy on “Tantrums”: Deny Your Children’s Lust

I recently came upon an old No Greater Joy post about tantrums. No Greater Joy, as you may remember, is run by Michael and Debi Pearl, authors of the fundamentalist Christian childrearing manual To Train Up A Child. I was raised on the Pearls' childrearing methods, and much of my own parenting journey has been unlearning the toxic parenting structures the Pearls promote. Anyway, this particular post about tantrums was written by Tremaine Ware, one of the Pearls' assistants.The relevant text … [Read more...]


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Nine-Year-Old Sluts and Masturbating Dinner Guests

While searching for an image to use to illustrate the concept "modesty," I came upon this image:I noticed that the image was from www.nogreaterjoy.org, so I clicked through. The article was titled "Sobering Issues---Modesty." It began with a letter from a woman who had read Created To Be His Help Meet and disagreed with Debi's treatment of Lydia in the story titled "Bad Bob." If you remember, Lydia, the youth pastor's wife, wore a tight skirt which, well, as the story tells it, basically … [Read more...]


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An Open Letter to Debi Pearl

Dear Debi,I was very excited when I read your article of this past August, titled "The Roland Study." In that article, you began with this opening paragraph: My grandson Roland, who just turned one, has taught me more about the development of babies and toddlers than I learned my first sixty-plus years of life. It is not that he is such a fine teacher; it’s just that, now that I’m a grandmother, not responsible for meeting the daily needs of my children, I can seriously focus on what makes h … [Read more...]


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Could Debi Pearl Be Changing Her Mind on Child Training?

I recently came upon an article by Debi on the No Greater Joy website. It was posted this past August, so it's relatively recent. I must say, when I first saw it yesterday I was quite surprised by it. Here's how it begins: My grandson Roland, who just turned one, has taught me more about the development of babies and toddlers than I learned my first sixty-plus years of life. It is not that he is such a fine teacher; it’s just that, now that I’m a grandmother, not responsible for meeting the dai … [Read more...]


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Raised Quiverfull: Coming under the Influence

How did your parents first come under the influence of Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull teachings? What leaders did they follow and what publications did they receive? Joe: When I was seven, my parents divorced.  This was 1987, the sort of peak to the “ministry” of the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), run by the Christian guru, Bill Gothard (Billy Boy G.).  At the time, Mama attended a weekly marriage counseling seminar called Rebuilders, a program put out by IBLP.  The pastor who ran … [Read more...]


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