Maintaining a Relationship with Difficult Parents


Over the years, I have sometimes gotten emails from readers wanting advice on how to deal with controlling and manipulative (if not downright abusive) parents. As my regular readers will know, I have maintained my relationship with my parents in spite of the no good very bad treatment I received from them as I came of age. My parents' actions---their efforts to control and manipulate and guilt me into being the daughter they wanted me to be---were emotionally abusive. Why did I decided to keep … [Read more...]

I Am Not a Child


Over Thanksgiving we got together with some relatives on Sean's side of the family. One of his cousins, whom I will call Hillary, is about ten years older than Sean and I, and watching her interact with her mother (Sean's aunt) was fascinating. Her mother, you see, can be a bit overbearing. Hillary, don't you think this, and Hillary, don't you think that, and so on. But that didn't phase Hillary. Hillary obviously loves her mom and vice versa and they appear to have a strong and healthy … [Read more...]