Temper tantrums, life, and calming down

Last week I took Sally to the park. When we pulled in, she completely freaked out. She started crying and yelling.No! Not here! Go back out, mommy!I responded as I normally do.Sally, it's okay, calm down. Tell mommy what's wrong. ... Honey, just take a deep breath, calm down, and use your words. ... Sally, I'm trying to listen to you, but I can't understand what you want while you're crying.This went back and forth for a minute or two, with her crying and me trying to figure out … [Read more...]

Take a deep breath and just be – even at 2 a.m.

My little girl, Sally, still frequently wakes up in the middle of the night and comes into the master bedroom. I'm the kind of person who likes to have plenty of space to sleep in, and I'm also getting more and more pregnant, so as you might imagine this can be pretty annoying."Mommy? Mommy? I want to sleep in bed with you. Please?"At 2:00 in the morning, the last thing I want is to have a small kicking child get in bed with me. But the thing is, one of the most important things about … [Read more...]

Misunderstandings and jumping to judgement

The other day I was driving somewhere and getting ready to turn left. I put on my blinker, but the car behind me kept riding my tail. I hit the break and began slowing down to turn, and the car behind me angrily honked at me. I made my turn but felt really angry. I had put on my blinker for crying out loud! What kind of jerk rides someone's tail after they put on their blinker and then has the nerve to honk when they start slowing down?The next day I realized my left blinker was out. The car … [Read more...]

I Miss the Music

I miss the music. Not the hymns, the contemporary Christmas music that could overpower you and lift your soul to the heavens. The music that could surround you, wrap you in its arms, and give you an almost transcendent experience. I think understanding how I came to this music is important in understanding how it fed my soul, and in understanding why I miss it.Growing up, my parents never forbade us from listening to contemporary Christmas music. They never limited us to hymns or told us … [Read more...]

Catholicism and My Search for Infallibility

Some readers have asked that I write more about my experiences with Catholicism, what drew me to it and why I left. So I thought I'd write about the first thing that made me question Catholicism.The Catholic Church claims infallibility. This made sense to me when I was leaving a sort of fundamentalist evangelicalism, as I had just realized that the Bible was not, as I had been taught growing up, infallible, at least in any literal or straightforward sense. The Catholic Church says that the … [Read more...]

Like a Little Child

My little girl says “hi” to everyone we pass on the street. And it’s not just a motion, either. She turns, smiles, waves her hand, and practically shouts “hi,” with happiness in her voice. She’s happy to see new people, happy to make new friends, happy to be alive. And what’s more, she doesn’t judge. She says “hi” to the homeless man with the same enthusiasm she exudes when she says “hi” to the man in the business suit. Fat, thin, black, white, Hispanic, beautiful, homely, Christian, Musl … [Read more...]