Wisdom and Thoughts from Sally

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From time to time I jot down something my five-year-old daughter Sally says to me, and the thoughts it leads to on my part, intending to share them here on the blog. But there's so much to blog about, and these words and thoughts are often shorter and don't seem to justify an entire blog post. So today I'm collecting a few of them together for your enjoyment and edification. ------------------------ Sally is finally old enough to buckle her own seatbelt. After years of having to buckle two … [Read more...]

(Mis)Reading Children’s Intent

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We have a neighbor lady who just loves to bring things over for five-year-old Sally and two-year-old Bobby. She's a bit older, and her own children are grown, and she's the kind of person who might be called a "busy body"---once you get in a conversation with her it's hard to get out. But she's sweet, and considerate, and has watched my children grow since they were little. She brings them craft supplies, or old toys she had yet to throw out.One evening a couple of weeks ago she came over … [Read more...]

“Be a Good Obeying Girl”

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When I was a child and my mother would leave me at a friend's house or with a sitter, there was one thing she always said right before she left."Be a good obeying girl." Of every virtue a child could have, the one my mother prized above all else was obedience. My mother was influenced by Michael Pearl's book, To Train Up a Child, which stipulated that obedience should be immediate and without question---and with a smile. Partly I think my mother was attracted to the Pearls' childrearing … [Read more...]

Both Children and Parents Are Demanding

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Sometimes, when we are on a road trip to visit relatives, we stop at a drive through on the way. Last week was one of those times. Then comes the flurry of passing out fries and figuring out whose shake is whose and everything that goes along with that---straws, napkins, ketchup, the works. Sean was driving and I was passing things every which way, the children and Sean simultaneously putting in bids for their food. I was on sensory overload and feeling frazzled and finally, in exasperation, I … [Read more...]

The “United” Front?

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One of the first parenting blogs I read was Dulce de Leche. Dulce also grew up homeschooled and had a similar transformation to my own. Her children are some years older than my own, and reading her positive parenting posts were transformative to me as a new and questioning mother. Since those early years, Dulce and I have become friends, and we now message each other now and again about this or that, and watch each other's children grow.Anyway, I've been wanting to write for a while about … [Read more...]

The Valentine’s Day Disaster

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I started this post several months ago, but never finished it. Given the conversation here on the blog lately about setting limits for children and saying "no," I thought I'd finish it and post it, because it seems relevant. The events in this post happened last February, right before Valentine's Day. I'm not going to finish with a lesson or moral, I'm just going to tell the story of one evening.It all started when I took four-year-old Sally and one-year-old Bobby to the dollar store after I … [Read more...]

“Sometimes You Have To Do What You Don’t Want To Do”

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We needed to get out the door, but Bobby was adamant---he didn't want to go. He wanted to stay home and watch his favorite kids' TV show. He worked hard to communicate and I understood what he wanted, but we really did have to get out the door. Bobby worked himself up into a frenzy and then began to cry. I picked him up and carried him to the car. By the time I buckled him into his carseat, he had accepted the inevitable. He was still upset, but he was much calmer.As I pulled out onto the … [Read more...]


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