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Sometimes atheists who hear my story respond by saying "wouldn't it be great if your whole family deconverts?" The first time someone said this, my gut response surprised me, because it told me something I didn't realize. You see, I honestly don't care whether or not my siblings become atheists, and I feel the same way regarding my children. I do, however, care a great deal about whether they are caring, compassionate, loving people who do good and not harm to both others and themselves. I'm … [Read more...]

“Conservative Kid Grows Up”

Ed of Dispatches from the Culture Wars just posted an interesting piece called "Conservative Kid Grows Up." I found it interesting because, quite simply, it's my story too. And for many of you, it's your story as well. Here are a couple excerpts from a news story on it: Jonathan Krohn took the political world by storm at 2009’s Conservative Political Action Conference when, at just 13 years old, he delivered an impromptu rallying cry for conservatism that became a viral hit and had some pegging … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: What Helped You When Leaving?

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What was most helpful to you when you were questioning and/or leaving the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: It was extremely beneficial to meet a lot of different kinds of people and just listen to them and their stories as much as possible.  I learned that there is so much variety in the world, and so many good and caring people!  Later, it was also helpful to spend some time away from church and religious culture.  It helped me see it with a fresh eye … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Advice for Others

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What advice do you have for other young adults currently questioning or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Your questions are there, deep down: be honest with God and yourself and acknowledge them.  God is big enough to handle your questions.  Then try to find answers for those questions with the mind that God gave you.  It can be a scary journey but life is much richer and more interesting when you venture out of the box that you were raised in … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: The Family Responds to Questioning

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How did your parents and siblings respond to you questioning/rejecting their beliefs? How did those you grew up with respond? Joe: When I met, Kristine, the woman I have been married to for almost 11 years, I had already left my singly mother who very sincerely and deeply followed Bill Gothard.  Regardless of her lifestyle. I still felt that I needed to be completely open with her about everything in my life.  Knowing she would be hateful toward Kristine, I told her anyway - and she was h … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Struggling with Questions

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What did you struggle with most when you were in the midst of questioning and/or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? What was the hardest part? Joe: Hell.  I struggled with that for all of five minutes.  Then, it didn't matter anymore.  There was no proof of anything.  So, if a god required me to believe in what was not firmly believable, I couldn't be required to get it right.  The other thing I struggled with was my guilt for having sex before marriage.  Sure, it was with my fut … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Asking the First Question

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What first made you question the beliefs you were raised with? Was this initial questioning a frightening or liberating experience? Joe: I can't put a finger on one experience that made me question my beliefs.  When I mention my beliefs, I must say that I have rejected everything from quiverful and fundamentalist Christianity, all the way to a belief in god.  I reject it all now.  But, with no further ado, I will construct a list of a few happenings that caused me to reject everything. 1.  My … [Read more...]


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