Why I Lied About My Rape

A Guest Post by K. Matthews Note from Libby Anne: This post may be triggering to some readers. Sexual assault has been a frequent topic of conversation in 2016, and with that conversation always seem to come a few questions: What are rape and sexual assault? How can we ever trust women to tell the truth about them? Why might women lie about such topics? Well, here is why I did.When I first told just a few people about my rape, I lied. But I didn’t lie about it happening—I lied about i … [Read more...]


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Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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Statutory Rape in Christian Homeschool Perspective

When I first started blogging five years ago, I was unaware of any cases of sexual abuse in my own evangelical homeschool community of origin. In the last two years, that has changed. I'm not going to give any names or details here. I do, however, want to talk about some overarching themes and ideas I've noticed."In another day and age, they would have just made him marry her.""Why should he go to jail? All he did was start a relationship."These are actual things I have heard said … [Read more...]


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Why the Brock Turner Letters Feel So Familiar

I wasn't going to write about convicted Stanford rapist Brock Turner. I really wasn't. Everyone else was writing about it it, I figured. Did I really need to write something too? There were enough voices out there, and the case was unfamiliar to me. But then I read about the letters. What letters, you ask? The letters Turner's friends and family members wrote to the judge urging him to be lenient in his sentencing, of course. These letters. One childhood friend wrote that Turner was “a mil … [Read more...]


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Doug Wilson: Women who reject patriarchy are tacitly accepting “the propriety of rape”

About a month ago, evangelical pastor Doug Wilson posted an article titled Courtship and Rape Culture. Let's pause to remember that Doug Wilson was embroiled in controversy last year when a child predator he had married to a woman in his church (and for whom he had helped secure a light sentence) was found to be guilty of some impropriety regarding his infant son (exactly what happened is unclear, but the judge did find that his wife was derelict in her duty as chaperone). The controversy s … [Read more...]


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Sexual Assault in Cologne and Sexual Assault at Home

Earlier this week, Hemant Mehta published an article titled We Can’t Ignore the Cultural and Religious Roots of the Cologne Sexual Assaults. While I largely agree with his post's content, I want to add something to his analysis. Hemant begins his post as follows: On New Years Eve, in the city of Cologne, Germany, what was supposed to be a night of celebration turned disturbing very quickly.We’ve learned that hundreds of women may have been sexually assaulted or had their property stolen that … [Read more...]


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The Word Is “Rape”

I recently read a rather horrific story about a teen girl held captive that brought up some serious concerns I have with the way the media covers rape. Take a look at this coverage from the Christian Science Monitor:A teenager held in captivity since early November was found Wednesday in the Missouri home of a 41-year-old man whom she had met online. The story is a chilling reminder to parents and teens that people encountered online are not always who they purport to be. Child safety … [Read more...]


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