Talking to Our Sons—and Daughters—about Rape

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I just read an article by Carina Kolodny called The Conversations You Must Have with Your Sons. I found it so good that I wanted to excerpt it here and then open the floor. None of the ideas presented here are particularly new to me, but I thought Kolodny pulled them together quite well. To the Parents of U.S. Teenagers,(An open letter.)Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, "I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses … [Read more...]

The Lesson of the 2013 MTV VMAs: Being Sexual While Female Is Worse Than Being Rapey or Racist

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So. Miley Cyrus. It seems she sang a song at the 2013 MTV VMAs.Mostly I've just been watching the multiple conversations going on about Miley's performance. But since the discussion hasn't shown any signs of letting up yet, I thought I'd dip my toe in. But since so much has been said already, I want to do so by highlighting some of the work of others, and also by opening the floor for commenters to post additional articles they thought were particularly thought-provoking---or particularly … [Read more...]

Rochester University Professor Trivializes Rape of Unconscious People

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***Trigger Warning for Rape Apology*** I just read a rather horrifying post. Every time someone claims there is no such thing as rape apologia, I read a post like this. This one is by Steven Landsburg, a professor of economics at the University of Rochester. Say what? Say yes. Here are three dilemmas about public policy:Question 1:Farnsworth McCrankypants just hates the idea that someone, somewhere might be looking at pornography. It’s not that he thinks porn causes bad behavior; it’s just t … [Read more...]

The Real Victims of Sexual Assault in the Military … Men’s Careers?!?

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So, this is kind of horrifying, but some individuals are actually arguing that women shouldn't be allowed to serve in more military positions because when they do the rate of sexual assaults will go up, and that will ruin men's careers. Yes, you heard that right. Men's careers.Here's what leading anti-feminist Phyllis Schlafly had to say: Military women are already complaining about increased sexual assaults, and of course those problems will skyrocket. Only men will be deemed at fault because … [Read more...]

Custador Makes a Pledge

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Yesterday Custador, who writes at Unreasonable Faith, published a post called "Venturing off the Atheism Track" in which he tackled rape culture, discussed some of his own experiences, and finished by making a pledge: To imply that women will stop rape, to my mind (however unintentionally), perpetuates the harmful myth that women are responsible for rape. That is, on the whole, untrue. I’m not saying that women don’t have a role to play, they clearly do: It’s a role that they share with men, thou … [Read more...]

How To Do Rape Awareness Right

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**Trigger warning for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.**Reader Petticoat Philosopher just sent me a rape awareness ad aimed at teenagers. It's an excellent example of what rape awareness campaigns should focus on, rather than on things like how women dress.Petticoat Philosopher shared her thoughts as follows: There isn't anything about this that isn't perfect. Why can't we have campaigns like this!? I love it because, for one thing, it's targeted about people who might rape not … [Read more...]

How the Modesty Doctrine Fuels Rape Culture

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I feel a little sick right now, and a little foolish. You know how it is when you see something you didn't see before, and suddenly it's so obvious you can't believe you didn't see it? I've danced around a lot of this, but I've never felt its force so bluntly and so directly. Namely, the emphasis on modesty that I received growing up is the food and fuel of the rape culture. Sarah Over the Moon wrote not long ago about how complementarians benefit from and use the existence of rape, but this is … [Read more...]


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