Do You Love God More than You Love Your Children?

I've written a lot about the evangelicalism I grew up in. I've written about patriarchal ideas about male leadership and female submission, and about what it was like to believe demons were literal beings I might encounter. I've written about young earth creationism and end times eschatology. I've written about ideas about corporal punishment and filial obedience. But it occurs to me that there's still a major belief I have yet to write about---one I think receives less attention than it … [Read more...]


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What Makes Someone a Feminist?

The Odyssey Online recently posted an article titled I Am Not A Feminist, and That's Okay. The article, written by college student Amanda Jayne Sankey, offers a moment to stop and ask what makes someone a feminist---or not a feminist.Sankey writes as follows: Don’t get me wrong; I’m all for equal pay. I think if a woman is doing the same job as a man (and just as good of a job), she should be paid the same. And if this were the early to mid-twentieth century, I would be a feminist. But this … [Read more...]


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Study Philosophy with Dan Fincke!

Hey guys! I've known Dan Fincke of Camels with Hammers almost since I first started blogging. In fact, way back when, he and I drafted a post comparing our experiences growing up in very different yet in some ways similar evangelical homes that I don't think we ever ended up posting! Oops! Anyway, I wanted to take a moment to make sure my readers know about Dan's online philosophy classes.Dan was an adjunct college instructor for a number of years before deciding to go into business for hims … [Read more...]


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The “Real Men” of Evangelical Christianity

I've run across a number of memes about what "real men" do. The most frequent seems to be that real men "protect" women rather than abusing them. This meme has bugged me because I'd rather have a man's respect than his protection. On a whim, I went to google, typed in "real men," and started scrolling through images. I found quite a number of these "real men" memes that were Christian-themed (most were probably created by evangelicals), and found myself cringing on a variety of levels.If … [Read more...]


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When Courtship Means Regret

Over and over and over again as a girl, I was taught that marrying through a parent-guided courtship would mean I wouldn't have any regrets. My mom used to talk about her past relationships, before she met my dad, with a great deal of regret. She wished she hadn't done things she did and dated the people she did. She regretted it, she would tell me, and she wanted to save me from having regrets of my own. And the magic relationship secret that would save a couple from having any regrets was … [Read more...]


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Mothers are NOT always right

Humans of New York has been visiting Iran recently, and this story of a mother and daughter just popped up in my feed:I'm glad this woman's daughter is okay, though I'm bothered by the fact that she seems to care more about the fact that she was right about her daughter's boyfriend being bad news than she does about the fact that her daughter is now safe and no longer in an abusive relationship. It's not so much "I'm glad you're safe and happy now" as it is "I told you so." And can you sa … [Read more...]


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Dating Is Dead: Long Live Whatever-We-Call-It-Now!

I recently came upon a post by Marshall Segal on John Piper's blog. It began:Dating is dead. So says the media. Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections. Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. I beg to differ. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or t … [Read more...]


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