True Womanhood: Get Abused, Win a Crown!

Christian feminist blogger Caris Adel has been reviewing DeMoss and Kassian's bible study for women, True Woman 101 Divine Design, which is the same genre as Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. When I write about Debi, I am often told that Debi is extreme, that her teachings are not widespread among evangelicals, etc. As DeMoss and Kassian reveal, however, this is incorrect. (You've heard of Kassian and DeMoss on this blog before, in a two-part guest series.) I want to quote from one s … [Read more...]

Homeschool Relationships in the Purity Culture

A guest rant by KateThis is my experience: Dating is only if you want to get married, so don’t date in high school. Be careful when you talk to guys, because you might lead them on, so just be careful what you say and how you act. Making friends of the opposite sex is a useless endeavor anyway, since you will undoubetedly end up attracted to each other, and there is no point having a relationship in high school.But just say you try starting a friendship with someone, when you’ve been tol … [Read more...]

Debi Pearl’s Logic in a 1963 Ladies Magazine Quiz

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I recently came upon one of those quizzes that sometime grace ladies' magazines, this one from 1963. I include it here because, to be honest, it made me think of Debi.Note first of all the entire premise of the quiz: Does your guy treat you wrong? Have you ever wondered if it's your fault? As regular readers will know, this exact line of reasoning is shot through Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. Next note the scoring. This, for instance---"he'll never treat you wrong, because … [Read more...]

Vision Forum’s Scott Brown Doesn’t Get Feminists

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I recently came upon a post called "The Most Pro-Woman Text in Scripture," by pastor and homeschool leader Scott Brown, who is on Vision Forum's board (for more on Vision Forum, see Rethinking Vision Forum). Last weekend, I was glad to participate in another wedding and to have the joy of giving a message. It was the wedding of Jordan Muela and Sarah Mendenhall in Indiana. As I was meditating on Ephesians 5:22-33 before the wedding, it struck me again that this passage is the most pro-female d … [Read more...]

A Time To Conceal and a Time To Tell

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Sometimes I come upon an article that speaks to my experiences and struggles so well that I just want to give the author a giant squeeze. Sometimes I come upon an article that explains something about myself that even I hadn't been able to articulate. An article I came upon yesterday was one of these. Let me excerpt the main points and then explain what I mean. The article is called "Why I Don't Tell People I Was in a Cult." I am part of a minority group that I call "People with a Big Story" f … [Read more...]

Things Women Hear in the Church

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I ran across two different articles today, each of which would have probably seemed only more appalling to me if they weren't simply parroting things I heard growing up as a conservative evangelical.The first was called True Love Doesn't Wait, written by a married father of six. The basic premise? Church singles need to stop waiting for true love and just get married already. The author responds to a blog post made popular in the fury of Christian blogging on purity that followed a post on … [Read more...]

Purity Culture and Staying in Abusive Relationships

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There is one part of the purity doctrines that I don't think has been talked about often enough, and that is that the emphasis on sexual or emotional purity leads women to stay in abusive relationships rather than leave, because if they leave, having given up their sexual and emotional purity, they will be ruined and no other man will have them. This reality was recently elucidated in a rather moving post by Samantha of Defeating the Dragons: When I was fourteen, I went to a month-long summer c … [Read more...]


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