A Twisted Father/Daughter Relationship

Father Daughter Dance

There is nothing wrong with arguing that a strong father/daughter relationship is important---if, that is, you're also arguing that strong parent/child relationships in general are important. But there's something weird when you elevate the father/daughter relationship above these others and start arguing that fathers and daughters should find in each other what they would otherwise go looking for in sexual and romantic relationships.Voddie Baucham says that middle aged men should turn to … [Read more...]

Teenage Daughters and Their Fathers

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I recently wrote about a group called "Bright Lights" that focuses on urging girls to abstain not only from sex and dating but also from male friendships---until marriage, of course. One of the conference topics, according to their website, is "Giving Your Heart to Your Father." One of the commenters responded to that as follows: I think the "Your Father" in the title meant God, but I could be wrong since there is the creepy incestuous vibe in the purity movement. I replied and let her know … [Read more...]

True Womanhood: Get Abused, Win a Crown!

Christian feminist blogger Caris Adel has been reviewing DeMoss and Kassian's bible study for women, True Woman 101 Divine Design, which is the same genre as Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. When I write about Debi, I am often told that Debi is extreme, that her teachings are not widespread among evangelicals, etc. As DeMoss and Kassian reveal, however, this is incorrect. (You've heard of Kassian and DeMoss on this blog before, in a two-part guest series.) I want to quote from one s … [Read more...]

Homeschool Relationships in the Purity Culture

A guest rant by KateThis is my experience: Dating is only if you want to get married, so don’t date in high school. Be careful when you talk to guys, because you might lead them on, so just be careful what you say and how you act. Making friends of the opposite sex is a useless endeavor anyway, since you will undoubetedly end up attracted to each other, and there is no point having a relationship in high school.But just say you try starting a friendship with someone, when you’ve been tol … [Read more...]

Debi Pearl’s Logic in a 1963 Ladies Magazine Quiz

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I recently came upon one of those quizzes that sometime grace ladies' magazines, this one from 1963. I include it here because, to be honest, it made me think of Debi.Note first of all the entire premise of the quiz: Does your guy treat you wrong? Have you ever wondered if it's your fault? As regular readers will know, this exact line of reasoning is shot through Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. Next note the scoring. This, for instance---"he'll never treat you wrong, because … [Read more...]

Vision Forum’s Scott Brown Doesn’t Get Feminists

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I recently came upon a post called "The Most Pro-Woman Text in Scripture," by pastor and homeschool leader Scott Brown, who is on Vision Forum's board (for more on Vision Forum, see Rethinking Vision Forum). Last weekend, I was glad to participate in another wedding and to have the joy of giving a message. It was the wedding of Jordan Muela and Sarah Mendenhall in Indiana. As I was meditating on Ephesians 5:22-33 before the wedding, it struck me again that this passage is the most pro-female d … [Read more...]

A Time To Conceal and a Time To Tell

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Sometimes I come upon an article that speaks to my experiences and struggles so well that I just want to give the author a giant squeeze. Sometimes I come upon an article that explains something about myself that even I hadn't been able to articulate. An article I came upon yesterday was one of these. Let me excerpt the main points and then explain what I mean. The article is called "Why I Don't Tell People I Was in a Cult." I am part of a minority group that I call "People with a Big Story" f … [Read more...]


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