Dominance and Submission or a Cooperative Partnership?

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Supporters of patriarchal gender roles and hierarchical marriage relationships often argue that feminists want to pit men and women against each other, but what they don't realize is that by turning marriage into a relationship based on dominance and submission, they are the ones pitting men and women against each other. In seeking equality, feminism envisions relationships built not on dominance and submission but rather on communication and cooperation, companionship founded on mutual respect, … [Read more...]

Homeschooling under the Influence

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After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]

Jimmy Kimmell on the Problem with Punishing Children

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[Text: What bothers me so much about punishing children is that it is a conscious effort to hurt them . . . . The question that must be asked is why we are, and have been, so willing to hurt our children in order to get them to behave---to treat them as criminals, slaves, and animals. ~ James Kimmell] I love the above image and feel that it really encapsulates a lot of my thoughts. I personally left off punishing my daughter Sally about a year or so ago. And you know what? The sky hasn't … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part V: Developing Intellectual Intimacy

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A guest post by MollyPart V of An Open Letter to Joshua Harris “The premise of dating is ‘I’m attracted to you; therefore let’s get to know each other.’ The premise of friendship, on the other hand, is ‘We’re interested in the same things; let’s enjoy these common interests together.’ If romantic attraction forms after developing a friendship, it’s an added bonus” (39). Dear Josh,Intellectual intimacy was the hardest section for me to write because you don’t really discuss it beyond fin … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part IV: Casting Out Fear at the Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Intimacy

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A guest post by MollyPart IV of An Open Letter to Joshua Harris “…I have no business asking for a girl’s heart and exclusive affections if I’m not ready to consider marriage. Until I can do that, I’d only be using that girl to meet my short-term needs, not seeking to bless her for the long term. Would I enjoy having a girlfriend right now? You bet! But I wouldn’t truly be loving her and putting her interests first” (19).“In most cases, especially when we’re younger, dating is short term … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part III: Developing Emotional Intimacy

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A guest post by MollyPart III of An Open Letter to Joshua Harris “Before two people are ready for the responsibility of commitment, they should content themselves with friendship and wait on deep emotional intimacy. Exercising this patience will not handicap them relationally. In friendship, they can practice the skills of relating, caring, and sharing their lives with other people. In friendship, they can observe other people’s characters and begin to see what they’ll one day want in their … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part II: Developing Spiritual Intimacy

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A guest post by MollyPart II of An Open Letter to Joshua HarrisA note for readers: Molly is a progressive Christian who is looking at Harris' book and teachings through that lens. Please bear this in mind as you read this installment and be respectful with your responses.  Dear Josh,The last time we parted ways I left you with a quote from Julia Feder, an author featured at Women In Theology: sexual intimacy is only one form of relational intimacy—emotional intimacy, int … [Read more...]


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