Raised Quiverfull: Suggestions for Helping Others

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What suggestions do you have for those who might to help friends or relatives who grew up/are growing up in families influenced by the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Remember that it takes a long time for people to change their opinions and even longer to change a whole worldview.  Try to focus on any similarities in values that you share with them, and choose your battles extremely carefully.  If the parents trust you, they may allow their children t … [Read more...]

Moments of silence

Have you ever experienced a "moment of silence"? You know, that awkward moment right after you say something without thinking and completely shock your conservative friend or relative? Let me offer some examples.Some time back I was out shopping with my mom. Me: "This looks like the kind of material my friend Anna is looking at for her bridesmaids' dresses. She's in full wedding planning at the moment, it's all she talks about." Mom: "Oh, that's sweet. When is her wedding?" … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: What Helps You Today?

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What helps you the most today? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: I sometimes get discouraged about my residual childhood baggage, but it helps to remember how far I’ve come.  I also like to think of all the good things that are in my life now, and remember that I wouldn’t have them if I had stayed in the movement. Libby Anne: Having tasted freedom and the ability to make up my own mind and make up my own decisions allows me to hold up even when things are difficult with family members or frie … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Culture Shock

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Since most of the world doesn’t understand Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy culture, do you feel this creates barriers in friendships or in romantic relationships? Do people have a hard time understanding you and your past? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: It seems like people are much more interested in who I am now than in who I used to be.  Personally, I try not to bring up my past until a relationship or friendship feels more established.  It is often hard to avoid though because there are a … [Read more...]

A Broken Father’s Day

Yesterday was Father's Day. I didn't call my dad.Part of me says I should have. He is my dad, and I do love him, after all. I could have called him. But the thing is, if I had called all that would have resulted is a strained conversation with a surface-level exchange. We would both have had to pretend that everything that happened between us several years ago didn't. It would have been fake.Yesterday Sierra posted a song that really speaks to my relationship with my dad. Here are some … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Relationships with Siblings

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Have any of your siblings (or perhaps even parents) left Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy ideology? How do you approach the relationships with siblings who have not? Joe: I would say half of my siblings have left and the other half still hang on to a little bit of the ideology or envelope themselves in it.  All I can do is communicate factual and logical information to them.  Recently, my brother left a Gothard law college because of facts I led him to and others have begun to vaccinate their c … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Coming “Out”

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For those who are no longer Christian, are you “out” to your parents or siblings? If so, how did you do it and how did they respond? Joe: I am out to everyone and their grandma.  Most of them roll their eyes.  Others have followed in my footsteps.  Some mock me behind the scenes.  Some even confront me with an audience.  Regardless, I still love them all. Latebloomer: I still consider myself a Christian, although I’m so liberal in my opinions that many Christians would not want to share the l … [Read more...]


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