Evangelicals’ Sexual Double Bind

Evangelical Christianity frequently approaches sex in a strongly dichotomous way---sex before marriage is bad, sinful, and sick and corrupting while sex after marriage is good, godly, and mind-blowingly pleasurable. Many young evangelicals, however, have found that they can't flip a switch at marriage and instantly achieve the mind-blowingly pleasurable sex they were promised after decades of being shamed for their sexual thoughts or desires. In other words, it's not so simple.Rachel … [Read more...]


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The Many Shades of Coercion

This week OK Magazine called attention to a recent sermon in which Kenny Batson, a pastor friend of the Duggars, discussed marital intimacy. In his sermon, Batson referred to a marriage retreat Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar helped put on: “What they talked about was this matter right here. Intimacy in marriage. And Michelle said something that I’d never thought, I mean I knew of it but I never thought like she put it,” he explained.“She said ‘Ladies, your husband can get his laundry done by ot … [Read more...]


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Jane the Virgin and Purity Culture Norms

If you've been watching the CW's third season of Jane the Virgin this fall, you know that Jane is a virgin no more. I've been meaning to write about the episode in which Jane---I hate the terminology here, "gives up her virginity" implies something was lost but "becomes sexually active" isn't as clear as it should be---but to be perfectly honest, I probably should have written about this show long before this moment.I've been watching the CW's Jane the Virgin since the first season was … [Read more...]


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Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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Statutory Rape in Christian Homeschool Perspective

When I first started blogging five years ago, I was unaware of any cases of sexual abuse in my own evangelical homeschool community of origin. In the last two years, that has changed. I'm not going to give any names or details here. I do, however, want to talk about some overarching themes and ideas I've noticed."In another day and age, they would have just made him marry her.""Why should he go to jail? All he did was start a relationship."These are actual things I have heard said … [Read more...]


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Catholics, Evangelicals, and Sexual “Purity”

Yesterday I posted an email from a reader about a speaker at her Catholic high school. I spent some time dissecting a number of the things this reader reported that the speaker said, and spoke briefly about the differences and similarities in evangelical and Catholic teachings about sex, purity, and marriage. Today I want to get into these differences in a bit more depth and look a bit further at this particular speaker---Jason Evert---and his organization.Jason Evert has an MA in theology … [Read more...]


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“Terrifying” Josh Duggar Porn Star Allegations Reveal the Depravity of Evangelicals’ Sexual Ethic

Earlier today, InTouch unveiled allegations by stripper and porn star Danica Dillon that Josh Duggar paid her for sex and then engaged in rough sex that she found "terrifying" and "traumatic." While Dillon described the encounter as consensual, she made it clear that she was not comfortable with what took place between them. You can read more here: “He walked into the Gold Club like a normal patron and said he’d been a fan for a long time and has watched my career grow — he even said from before … [Read more...]


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