Raised Evangelical: Shannon’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.I grew up believing in Christianity like I believed the sky was blue and 2+2 equals 4. Both my parents are firm believers. I remember asking Jesus into my heart when I was three or four years old, and I was in evangelical schools from preschool through 12th grade. It took me until I wa … [Read more...]

Sex, men, and “giving”

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Yesterday we talked about what it means when evangelicals and fundamentalists speak of a woman "giving" in the context of sex - namely, that it involves a woman "giving" sex to her husband in order to fulfill his sexual needs. Well, I was recently pointed to an article called Necessities for God-Glorifying Sex which speaks of the man "giving." It made me realize that this is something I've seen before. Let's take a look, shall we?First, note that the title of the article - "Necessities for … [Read more...]

Sex, women, and “giving”

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When evangelicals and fundamentalists speak of a woman "giving" in the context of sex, what they mean is that even if a wife would rather be doing something else, she should sublimate her own desires and have sex with her husband in order to meet his need for sex. I've discussed this a bit before.I am terribly uncomfortable with this entire idea because I see sex as something that should be about mutual pleasure and intimacy. I don't see it as something that should be one sided or … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Veronica’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.My name is Veronica. I'm currently 35 years old. I was raised by my parents as an Evangelical Christian, and took part in church life all my youth. Today I define myself as a Secular Humanist, which I have for the past 4-5 years. Before that I considered myself an agnostic. My t … [Read more...]

“A truly loving husband won’t take advantage”

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A twitterer recently tweeted this at me: "In marriage it is her duty but if her husband truly loves her he will never make her have sex just because they are married." If I had a dollar for every time someone said something like this, I'd be rich. It goes like this (and Debi Pearl's books are really chock full of it): God requires women to submit to their husbands, but truly loving husbands won't take unfair advantage of that. Let's dissect this, shall we?Requirement: According to t … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Jenn’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series. Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.My name is Jenn and I am 40 years old and married with no children.I was raised in what I considered a very religious family.  My parents converted from Baptist to Evangelical not long after I was born and I was the only child brought up wholly Evangelical.  I was very dedicated to … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Chryssie’s Story

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A post in the Raised Quiverfull series.Part 1: Introductory Questions Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started. Are you married or unmarried? Are you in school, holding down a job, or staying home? Do you have children? What religious beliefs or lack thereof do you ascribe to today? Provide whatever additional information you like.In an effort to be anonymous, I’ll go by Chryssie, and I am 21. I am the oldest of 9; 5 boys and 4 girls. I recently got married as of May, … [Read more...]


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