In Which Sally Talks to Adults

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We'd only been at the get-together five minutes when I realized that my daughter Sally was engaged in a romping game of tag with a twenty-something family friend of my in-laws. At Sally's instigation, the game soon turned to hide and seek, and Sally was giggling under a table while her new friend was walking around the table pretending to not be able to find her. This is not the first time this has happened. When Sean had some of his friends over for a cookout last summer, Sally was quickly … [Read more...]

Homeschoolers and Socialization: What Is “Fringe”?

When I write about the socialization problems I experienced as a homeschooler, a common response from homeschool advocates is that my experience was just fringe---and that it doesn't in any way represent homeschoolers as a whole. This made me wonder: Just what is "fringe"? When it comes to socialization, HSLDA is still touting 1997 numbers showing that most homeschoolers are involved in a variety of outside activities, including things like 4H, bible club, and music classes. There is one part … [Read more...]

Homeschool Parents Need To Take Socialization Seriously

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I've been thinking more about socialization, and I think I've reached a point of clarity. Ever since writing my first post on homeschooling and socialization several years ago, many people who attended public school have told me that they, too, had struggles with socialization, and others have insisted that there are homeschoolers who are well socialized in diverse circles and end up with no socialization problems at all. The issue is obviously more complicated than well-socialized public … [Read more...]

Homeschooling and the Parent-Child Socialization Divide

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Lana over at Wide Open Ground has been hitting it out of the park lately with her posts on homeschooling. The most recent two, one by her and one a guest post, both bowled me over, because they put words to things I have long felt but never fully articulated. In the first, Lana explains that, no matter how hard they might try, first generation homeschool parents can't actually know what it's like to be a homeschooled kid. Here is how she explains that: I am so often amazed at the … [Read more...]

Homeschooling, Socialization, and Me

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When it comes to homeschooling, the two issues people seem to be most concerned about are academics and socialization. In yesterday's post I talked about academics, and in today's post I will address socialization. I was homeschooled from kindergarten through high school. For that entire period, the kids I interacted with regularly were almost universally the children of my parents' friends. Because my parents' friends were, like them, white, middle class, evangelical homeschool parents, my … [Read more...]

Homeschool Reflection: A Parent’s Perspective

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A guest post by Northstar Libby Anne, I’ve been following your comments on homeschooling with avid interest. As a homeschooling parent, I was most interested -- and terrified -- by the anger I saw from young adults who had been homeschooled. I followed a few links to read their stories because I truly, truly wanted to know if my kids were going to end up hating me for homeschooling them. To my relief, I quickly saw a pattern emerging. The young adults who were angry were almost … [Read more...]

The Results of Homeschool Mis-Socialization

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As I was thinking about homeschooling and socialization recently, I realized something in my experiences that at first seemed contradictory. You see, when I first started college I found frightening something as simple as walking through crowded hallways or sidewalks between class. However, I had never found walking through the crowded foyer in my parents' megachurch frightening in the least, even though most of those individuals were also strangers (that's generally how it is in a megachurch - … [Read more...]


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