Christian Homeschooling and the Battle of Peer Dependency, Part 2: Family, Not Friends

Note: I just realized that I never posted the second part of Darcy's post about peer dependency. Darcy writes about the toxic beliefs held by many Christian homeschool about peer relationships---and the ways in which these beliefs can deprive their children of deep friendships. Darcy speaks as a homeschool graduate, and seeks to shed light on the these groups' wildly inaccurate beliefs about child development and the pain caused in their wake. You can read part 1 here.By Darcy. Originally … [Read more...]


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Homeschool Socialization Is Not Extraneous

Not long ago, I read a blog post by a homeschool mom Lisa titled Saying 'No' to the Homeschool Group. As a homeschool graduate, I was extremely bothered by the author's attitude toward her children's desire for friends and time to socialize. I remember being a homeschooled child begging to do co-op because it meant seeing my friends. I remember watching my siblings beg for time with friends. Social interaction is not an optional part of children's development. It's critical.In her blog post, … [Read more...]


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Christian Homeschooling and the Battle of Peer Dependency, Part 1: We’re Not Exaggerating

By Darcy. Originally posted on Homeschoolers Anonymous. Sometimes when homeschool alumni tell stories about the way things were — the things we were taught, stuff our parents said, and the teachings we practiced — we are not really believed. Our recollections are met with incredulity, doubt, and outright disbelief. Sometimes, our own parents are the ones telling us “that didn’t happen like that, you aren’t remembering correctly, I never said/did/taught/believed those things”. Those presently hom … [Read more...]


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Picking Things Up from the Culture, Homeschool Edition

If you're a regular reader, you may have noticed that, when speaking of my conservative evangelical homeschool upbringing, I frequently say "I was told X" rather than "my parents told me X." There is a reason for that---sometimes I can't remember whether my parents actually taught me some specific aspect of purity culture or political conservatism or whether I just picked it up from the Christian homeschool culture around me. After all, I read the homeschool magazines we subscribed to, listened t … [Read more...]


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3 Ways Homeschoolers Actually Socialize Differently than School Kids

I recently came upon a post titled 3 Ways Homeschoolers Socialize Differently than School Kids. Curious, I clicked. I should have known better. Predictably, the post was written by a homeschooling mother who has no idea what it's like to actually be a homeschooled child. In this post I will respond to the points made by blogger Jennifer Fitz, speaking from my experience as a homeschool alumna.1. Homeschool kids break their own ice. I picked up my son from his Confirmation kick-off event, a … [Read more...]


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In Which Sally Talks to Adults

We'd only been at the get-together five minutes when I realized that my daughter Sally was engaged in a romping game of tag with a twenty-something family friend of my in-laws. At Sally's instigation, the game soon turned to hide and seek, and Sally was giggling under a table while her new friend was walking around the table pretending to not be able to find her.This is not the first time this has happened. When Sean had some of his friends over for a cookout last summer, Sally was quickly … [Read more...]


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Homeschoolers and Socialization: What Is “Fringe”?

When I write about the socialization problems I experienced as a homeschooler, a common response from homeschool advocates is that my experience was just fringe---and that it doesn't in any way represent homeschoolers as a whole. This made me wonder: Just what is "fringe"?When it comes to socialization, HSLDA is still touting 1997 numbers showing that most homeschoolers are involved in a variety of outside activities, including things like 4H, bible club, and music classes. There is one part … [Read more...]


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