Vision Forum Builds “Manhood” in the Wilderness

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Hazardous Journeys. Leading Christian Patriarchy organization Vision Forum is worried that boys today are not manly enough. It’s solution? Many trips into the wilderness to build courage, risk-taking, leadership, and manhood. In this post I discuss Vision Forum’s Hazardous Journeys Society, post some videos from Vision Forum regarding this project, discuss the historical precedent for this sort of thing, and point out that it’s, you know, just for boys. [Read more...]

What’s the most important thing about you? Oh right.

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To Vision Forum, the post important thing about a child is its gender. This has changed in mainstream American society. Sure, it’s far from perfect – as the mother of a daughter growing up in a princess pink girl culture, I know this better than some – but we no longer blink at the artistic boy or the athletic girl. Skills, talents, and interests matter. But not for Vision Forum. No. For Vision Forum, your gender matters first, and any skills, talents, or interests that don’t fit your gender, well, you can just forget about those. [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Suggestions for Helping Others

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What suggestions do you have for those who might to help friends or relatives who grew up/are growing up in families influenced by the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Remember that it takes a long time for people to change their opinions and even longer to change a whole worldview.  Try to focus [Read More...]

Raised Quiverfull: Advice for Others

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What advice do you have for other young adults currently questioning or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Your questions are there, deep down: be honest with God and yourself and acknowledge them.  God is big enough to handle your questions.  Then try to find answers for those questions with the mind that [Read More...]

Raised Quiverfull: Stay at Home Daughters

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In what ways were boys and girls in your family raised differently vocationally (i.e., the boys pushed toward careers and the girls pushed toward homemaking)? How did this play out as you came of age (apprenticeship, college, staying home, etc.)? Joe: The girls were not allowed to go to college.  Not until they escaped from [Read More...]

Raised Quiverfull: Siblings and Responsibilities

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How many siblings did you grow up with? Did responsibilities in your family differ by gender, with the girls having certain chores and the boys having others? Explain. Joe: My Mama was a very unique woman.  I’ll explain in a bit.  But first, I was the dead middle child of seven siblings.  The oldest was [Read More...]

Missing the Point: Sex Maniacs and Shamed Boys

Some time ago, a reader offered the following comment on one of my posts. You emphasized in other posts that you were taught that all that men think about is sex, but that is not true. In this post, you feel sorry for your brother because everyone knows that all men think about is sex, [Read More...]

Worthwhile Reads: Emotional Incest

Inspired by my series on emotional incest a few weeks ago, Sierra of The Phoenix and the Olive Branch recently wrote three posts on the topic herself. By the way, I can’t praise Sierra and her writing enough. I really can’t. If you haven’t perused her blog yourself, you should. Start with the three posts I just [Read More...]

Worthwhile Reads: The “Modesty Doctrine” Hurts Men Too

From time to time, I plan to point my blog readers to articles on other blogs that I find especially good. I’m really grateful to my blogging friend Sierra for writing excellent pieces on the problem with what she calls “the modesty doctrine.” Just today Sierra posted an amazing article called “How the Modesty Doctrine [Read More...]

Beautiful Girlhood v. Courageous Boyhood

Remember how I centered my story, The Beautiful Girlhood Doll, on Vision Forum’s qualities of beautiful girlhood? Well, I just today found out that Vision Forum also has a list of the qualities of courageous boyhood. Before I begin my side by side analysis of these qualities, can I say how much it bothers me [Read More...]

Sons of Patriarchy

Yes yes, I know I just said it’s about the daughters, but it’s actually about the sons too, and here’s why: Christian Patriarchy may say its about creating the perfect godly family, but, at its heart, it’s about control. Yes, that sounds kind of harsh! Let me explain. In Christian Patriarchy, parents don’t let their [Read More...]