Punishment Has No Place in Marriage*

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I grew up in an evangelical family, raised by parents who believed that husbands are to lead and wives are to submit. But I don't recall hearing anything about husbands punishing their wives for lack of obedience. When disobedient wives came up, husbands were generally advised to simply love and pray for them. So I have to admit to being rather horrified by some blog posts I came upon this week.First I read a blog post by blogger Sunshine Mary, in which she wrote that her husband refused to r … [Read more...]

But What If Your Husband Tells You Not to Submit?

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When I write about submission, especially in the context of Debi Pearl's book, Created To Be His Help Meet, commenters frequently ask what Debi would say to a woman whose husband told her not to submit. I think we have our answer, or at least as close as we're going to get to an answer. It's an article by Debi's daughter Shoshanna Easling. My Dad was not the type of guy to check with you before he made a decision. We would be driving down the road when all of a sudden he would pull in to a … [Read more...]

When Up Is Down and Down Is Up, Submission Edition

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I recently came upon an old article explaining the concept of wifely submission. While I'm unsure who wrote it, and it appears to be from the 1990s, it's similar enough to the ideas taught by many evangelicals and fundamentalists that it bears addressing.There are a lot of misconceptions about submission and submissive people.  Before we can intelligently consider what the Bible has to say on the subject of submissive wives we need to clear these misconceptions out of our way.  Let me begin w … [Read more...]

How Doug Phillips Wreaked Havoc on My Family

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My parents homeschooled me K-12, and during those years they fell under the influence of several Christian leaders who spread toxic dogma and find their following within the Christian homeschool movement. My parents never followed Gothard, but they did follow both Michael Pearl and Doug Phillips. I've talked a lot about how their devotion to Michael Pearl taught them to think that if they raised me "right" they could ensure that I stayed on the straight and narrow, copying my parents in my … [Read more...]

“The Female Sin of the Internet”

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The very first blogger to write about Vision Forum president Doug Phillips' statement of resignation and repentance (it seems he had conducted a lengthy affair) was Julie Anne of Spiritual Sounding Board. Julie Anne is a homeschooling mother of seven who spent years in a spiritually abusive fundamentalist church following the trends and theology of the most conservative circles of the Christian homeschooling movement. In 2012, for a variety of personal and family reasons, Julie Anne left and … [Read more...]

Under Her Father’s Authority

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In many ways, my upbringing and background isn't that weird. Yes, I had twice as many siblings as most people have cousins, but in general my upbringing was very normal---for the evangelical subculture, that is. But when I tell people about my background, the thing that always trips them up is the part about unmarried adult daughters being under their fathers' authority, to the point of requiring complete submission and obedience. This is . . . weird, even for the evangelical world. But in the … [Read more...]

The Harlot v. the Godly Woman

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I just ran upon this image on facebook. It is from the website Dan's Pulpit, and compares the "Harlot" to the "Godly Woman." Have a look:I was going to get all in depth examining all of the implications and issues involved here, but then I found myself short on time and thought instead I'd hand it over to you all to dissect. So, what do you think? What all is going on with this sort of contrast? If you spent time as an evangelical or fundamentalist, how have you seen this contrast … [Read more...]


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