If he’s Jesus and I’m the church, that’s not equal

Bride of Christ

"Husbands and wives are equal, they just have different roles." Do you have any idea how many times I've heard that? At one point I believed it, but somewhere along the line I realized it couldn't be true. Why? Because the husband's role always ends up being "being in charge" while the wife's role is "doing as told." I'm sorry, but that's not equal. That can't be equal.But I also remember hearing another constant meme - that marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Jesus and the … [Read more...]

Worshiping the Man: Christian Patriarchy as Idolatry

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I just realized something that should have been obvious a long time ago. Christian Patriarchy is idolatry.See, Sarah Over the Moon recently wrote a piece in which she argued that picturing God as male, in the shape of a man, and speaking of him as king or father is idolatrous because it makes God into a man, brings God down to an earthly level, instead of understanding God as "an analogy that aids human understanding and breaks earthly power structures." In other words, patriarchy lowers God … [Read more...]

Theology 101: Divine Revelation and Spiritual Headship

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About a month ago a reader asked why, if evangelicalism was a religious tradition that emphasizes direct divine revelation, any evangelical would hold that God speaks to a woman through her husband or father rather than just speaking to her himself. How could those two ideas go together? This is a very good question, and it deserves an answer, so here we go!It is absolutely true that evangelicalism has long emphasized direct revelation from God. The idea was always that … [Read more...]

Command v. Suggestion: “Wives, submit!” and “Husbands, love!”

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Any Christian Patriarchy advocate reading my post yesterday would surely have been shaking his or her head and saying "but it's all about servant leadership, not a dictatorship!" or "women may be commanded to submit to their husbands, but God also commands men to love their wives!" These are the two go-to excuses made by defenders of Christian Patriarchy, who argue that those men who are dictatorial and domineering simply aren't doing it right.I recently read a post on Sober Second Look cal … [Read more...]

“Different but Complementary” and “Separate but Equal”

I recently ran across a short post on Kaelee Bates, a blog run by a woman with previous experience with Christian Patriarchy. Here is an excerpt: "Different but Complimentary."I cannot shake how similar that phrase is to, "separate but equal"I have attempted to write on this subject numerous times, but the truth is I am still too angry and raw. I just want to scream at everyone, "THIS IS NOT EQUALITY!" ...There is no way for me to write about this subject and keep my anger out of … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy and Bodily Ownership

My mother taught my sisters and I that our bodies belonged to our father. She told us that if we wanted to alter our bodies by a piercing or tattoo, that had to go through him - even if we were adults. She told us that once we married, our bodies would belong to our husbands, and we would likewise have to get permission from them to alter our bodies in any way.Christian Patriarchy teaches that every female has a god-given male authority, or male "head," to whom she must submit. And submit … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Marriage

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In many ways, every Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull couple has a different dynamic. What sort of a dynamic did your parents have? Was one more sold on the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology than the other? Or, if you grew up in a broken family, how did this affect your experience? Joe: When Mama discovered patriarchy, my parents were already divorced.  My dad had attended an IBLP Basic seminar as a young college student.  He brought the materials home to his dad who promptly threw it a … [Read more...]


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