Adam Smith Apologizes

Not a perfect job, but who is good at apologizing? I think he should have stopped at about the 4:00 minute mark and left out the stuff about how other people’s badness pushed him over the edge. But he’s obviously trying and since I suck at saying, “Sorry” I think he deserves props for trying. Mercy is what is called for here.

Update for some of my readers: Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. 24 When he began the reckoning, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents; * 25* and as he could not pay, his lord ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26* So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 27 And out of pity for him the lord of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 28 But that same servant, as he went out, came upon one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; * and seizing him by the throat he said, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down and besought him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 30 He refused and went and put him in prison till he should pay the debt. 31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their lord all that had taken place. 32 Then his lord summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you besought me; 33 and should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And in anger his lord delivered him to the jailers, * till he should pay all his debt. 35* So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”

If every one of your apologies has not been perfect, then I’d advise cutting Mr. Smith some slack for his imperfect apology.

  • John in NE

    I expected the typical: “I’m sorry now I got caught.”

    Or the “I’m sorry that *you* got offended.”

    It was really none of that. Not bad, as a matter of fact. And I agree with our host that it could have stopped around the halftime, but in a way then we’d miss the best part:

    I have no idea if Mr. Smith is religious, spiritual, irreligious, atheist, agnostic or whatever, so perhaps I’m setting up a strawman here. But so much of the second half of his apology is that twisted pretzel type logic, that modernists get themselves into when they don’t realize they they are moral absolutists.

    They want it all: doctrine, sin, guilt, penance, evangelization. However, a Christian’s standards of where the lines are absolutely drawn *must* be wrong because we believe they were set by the creator of the universe. But theirs *must* be right because they were created by nobody, but somehow are self evident, and the breeze of societal whim ever progresses us toward these absolute truths.

  • victor

    You can almost sense his wife, standing just off camera, holding a baseball bat.

    • jenn

      Wife? He’s gay, and besides, no woman would put up with this arrogant guy!

  • John C

    Give him his job back, please! Nobody deserves to lose their job over a thoughtless blunder like this. It was an adolescent prank. I’m sure he learned something from it.

    • lynne3

      “adolescent prank”??? Take a look at this guy, he is NOT an adolescent! He is a grown man, and should have known better. But he thought he would get his kicks, by trying to embarrass and bully this young woman! Didn’t work!!

      • John C

        “Prank” may have been the wrong word. He was a smug, wise-ass, adolescent jerk. There’s plenty of 30 year old adolescents out there. But he may have a wife and kids, so you gotta give him a break.

        • Chris M

          Personally, I think it’d be great if a Catholic organization offered him a job.. not that he’d accept working for us ‘haters’.

    • C.K.

      How do you call his rude behavior a prank? This is a grown man who made a point to video tape himself harrassing a young woman who merely was at work, made the statement she was uncomfortable with his behavior and he continued anyway. And on top of that then post the video on the internet!? He had no regard for her feelings or privacy, he cost himself his job and then was sorry? Maybe more people should think about their behavior instead of instant gratification. Jobs do not have to tolerate that kind of behavior and he learned a hard lesson

  • lynne3

    He’s sorry there was such a negative reaction to his bullying! That is the only reason for this “apology”. He was feeling pretty proud of himself, during his rant. Posting it on youtube was a pretty ignorant thing to do! Does he really think this is the way to bring attention to his “cause”???

    • Thom

      Hey, don’t be so quick to negatively guess at the motivations of others. It’s not impossible that this guy actually means what he says, is it?

      • lynne3

        I believe he actually meant what he said in the drive-thru, but not in his so call apology. His rant blew up in his face, so now he’s trying to make nice.

  • William

    A sincere apology does not take the opportunity to continue going on and on with his “cause”. This doesn’t come close!

  • Joannie

    I think Mr. Smith is sorry about being rude to the waitress because he ended up getting fired from his employer for his remarks and video. He says he is “shocked” by the death threats he has received to which I say is this WHEN IT COMES TO HATE CERTAIN ACTIVIST FOR THESE CAUSES CAN DISH IT OUT BUT THEY CAN”T TAKE IT THEMSELVES. By the way the so called “KISS- IN” was a monumental FLOP compared to the support for the restaurant. I think Americans are sick and fed up with all this bullying being done to silence people just because you don’t agree with them. Nor do you talk about not allowing somebody to locate somewhere. This PC garbage has got to stop because it is not only getting stupid but it makes us look like phonies before the whole world. How can we spread “Freedom” overseas if we are in danger and already losing it here in a “land of the free” I think we are turning into a dictatorship called the United Socialist States of America, and this is no joke we’re losing property religion and family rights under this Relativism and everybody should fight against it at all costs just like they have done but who knows what will happen by Election Day. We may have Martial Law in this country by then. Americans better WAKE UP!

  • http://raeblog.blogspot.com Rae Stabosz

    I gotta say, I’m saddened by the comments that are second-guessing this man’s apology. I think the parable Mark quotes is VERY relevant. Are we Catholics not in the forgiveness business??

  • Jess

    Wow, did anyone else notice who he grouped in with “anti-gay” groups? Exodus International? Really? It’s made up of a bunch of Christians with SSA. And, I know many Christians with SSA first hand who would say that the organization has made their lives better and more joyful. Have he even heard Joe Dallas speak and the joy for the Lord he talks about? Really, the whole “change therapy” accusation is silly. As Christian — gay, straight, blue, green, whatever — the goal is to “change” for the better throughout your whole life. Duh.

  • Marion

    I forgive Mr. Smith. Even apart from whether I forgive him or not, I think the fact that he is capable of bullying a front-line server, and posting himself on YouTube doing it, indicates that he is without a doubt, one who endows the phrase “arrogant lout” with new vistas of meaning. I have also seen falling-down-drunks with better judgment on what is and is not a good career move.

    Utter, comprehensive, sheer crassness and incompetence. Not incompetent for someone who bags groceries or cuts lawns. But incompetent when we’re talking about someone who has signatory power on company checks drawn in amounts over $10,000.00. Someone who has ultimate responsibility for Accounts Payable, Accounts Receivable, Finance, Payroll, Tax, Asset Management, for all of it, he was honcho.

    For that kind of responsibility, you need someone who knows how to present himself as a reasonable, responsible adult. At all time.

    The fact that he freely chosen eveals himself to be an arrogant lout, as well as incompetent for the job of running a company has nothing to do with whether I or anyone forgives him.

    He isn’t fit for that job. He shouldn’t go back.

    He can work as a library re-shelver. He can get a job as a sales rep. somewhere. He can become an author, or a journalist. This is not the only job in the world.

    He should not have a position of significant responsibility, and he should not supervise anybody. Can’t handle it. But, sure, of course, he should have a job. There are hundreds, thousands he would be fit for!

    • Rosemarie

      +J.M.J+

      I would forgive him except that I don’t feel all that personally hurt by his actions. What he did was annoying, yes, but A) it was personally directed at that young lady, not me; B) he was roundly punished for his tirade; and C) now he’s apologized to the person that he verbally attacked so unjustly. So it’s all good.

      • Marion

        When someone – anyone – behaves badly, and deliberately hurts someone, the entire community is affected. Because all humans are interconnected, and those in our community, especially so. Even if we are strangers to one another.

        If I hear of such an episode and learn the name and profession of such a hurter, then it often follows that I (a) think badly of him across-the-board (i.e., as a worthless pustule instead of as a person worthy of love), and (b) hope to see justice restored where his misdeed is concerned.

        When I catch myself thinking and hoping in that way, what I know I need to do is (a) renounce my thinking badly of him as an object to be despised, (although I may legitimately be circumspect about placing my trust in them going forward while their present character issues have not yet been addressed) and (b) limit my hope of seeing justice restored to an interest in seeing a repair to any damage to other individuals and to the community, and not to the amelioration any sense of anger I may carry. (That’s kind of my definition of human forgiveness, which I’ve been noodling with for nigh on eight years.)

        • Rosemarie

          +J.M.J+

          Well, I guess I see the loss of his job, the overwhelming criticism of his actions both off and online, the outpouring of sympathy for the girl he berated, and his apology as “justice restored.” So my annoyance with his actions is satisfied.

          • Rosemarie

            +J.M.J+

            Mind you, I’m not saying that I *refuse* to forgive him. Maybe I have already forgiven him, after seeing him suffer the consequences for his act and then apologize. If he has a family, including special needs kids, then he needs a job. His former employer should reconsider.

  • Richard Johnson

    Interesting…in critiquing Smith’s apology are you folks engaging in exactly the same kind of “reading between the lines” that the gay brownshirts have been accused of doing?

    No…of course not. Sorry I even suggested it. Carry on.

  • Mike

    He may be sorry and its unfortunate he lost his job but militancy in the LGBT community just took a huge hit. It’s about time someone with some power pushed back..

  • julian

    i watched it until 4:03 and thought it was really really good. he apologized to the person that he directly hurt. i’m guessing he goes on to explain that he hasn’t changed his political or moral outlook and that he still disagrees with everyone who bought Chick Fil A on August 1. It really doesn’t matter, because at the end of the day he stopped and said, “aw crap, I just treated another human being badly.” He then proceeded to pause and consider who that person was and that is a really really good thing. Heck, he even talked about how her composure and peacefulness in dealing with the situation would help her in life. I mean at the end of the day, he stopped and considered “the other.” I hope I do that in my own life when I screw up.

  • http://gladius-spiritus.blogspot.com/ bear

    The man has apologized. The matter should now be closed.

  • Mark

    I hear Chick-fil-A is hiring.

  • http://www.wanderingheretic.com Caine

    Whether I accept his apology or not is irrelevant. The issue is whether God and that saintly employee do. I have a feeling both will.

  • Mike

    What should make us sit up and think is the fact that this guy, despite his monumental cock-up and modernist claptrap obviously has a laudable sense of humanity. He thinks we all hate gays – it’s NOT TRUE! We hate homosex and the drive for same-sex marriage, not the people involved. The question is: why are we, and the people at CFA for that matter, so hopeless at getting this vital point across?

  • EBS

    Good for him for apologizing to Rachael. I’m sure she wasn’t hanging out for his apology, and presented herself very well. But he did the right thing,
    But It’s gotta be said- I DON’T for one minute believe that his ex-employer received “death threats” over this- 300 angry messages yes, but threats that in Adams Smiths words could have posed a threat to employees- pleeeease! Don’t you love how people exaggerate things, especially the “suffering” they have living as LGBT. Someone play violins please.
    In Australia yesterday on a TV news programme, there was a politician who put the whole Gay rights thing into perspective. He said it’s a non-issue, and he has better things to worry about like the fact that one farmer committs suicide every four days because of their struggle out on the land (drought, competing with exports, looking after their families livelihood etc…), and guess what? The high and mighty gay man in the audience who can live in defacto, adopt children, have complete equal standing as every other human, who asked this politician the question SHUT HIS MOUTH.
    It is a non-issue that has been exaggerated, beaten up, shoved in everyone’s face for FAR too long. And frankly I’m sick of Adam Smith and the like and their BS. Go look after your 4children Adam and their future in the Obama stuffed US economy, than worrying about if two men can wear bridal veils!

  • Rosemarie

    +J.M.J+

    Incidentally, as if on cue, someone from the other side of the marriage debate has now filmed his own boneheaded stunt and posted it online:

    http://www.thesmokinggun.com/buster/cheerios-burning-protest-567341

    I hope he doesn’t feel “purposeful” since his antics are just as useless as those of Mr. Smith.

  • Lloyd Petre

    How throwing a video up on Youtube and hoping the person you wronged stumbles upon it constitutes an apology is something I need explained to me. I doubt not his contrition.

    • Mark Shea

      The guy already said he went to the woman and spoke with her. Obviously the video is intended for the larger audience he offended. Is it really *this* hard to cut the dude some slack?

      • EBS

        The guy is a narcissist. He needs a camera and You Tube for every action of his. I can see that although he did the right thing, why people would feel annoyed by his need for public affirmation of his actions. Can’t you?

        • Andy, Bad Person

          He sinned publicly, he apologized publicly. Sounds right to me.

  • Al

    I feel bad for this guy and wished he would not have lost his job. It is a bizarre world when the puppet masters meow their talking points down to the Adam Smiths of the world and he feels so helpless and powerless that he reaches out onto some issues, he has no grasp of, in order to “Strike a Blow Against Hate” or whatever some bastard convinced him to say and makes a dumb mistake and then lose his job because of it and puts his family in jeopardy.. St Michael defend us in battle, be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil…

  • Observer

    He lost work due to his actions. I wouldn’t had hoped he had. But, the consequence had followed and ver likely permitted him to think about his actions. Look at the prodigal son, he had a fear of depravity (imperfect contrition.) He feared loss of his father’s love and living. In fact, when he recounted his father’s love and abundance, he didn’t think about how well his older brother was treated and lives. Rather, he thought how well the servants were treated (his father’s love extended beyong just him and his brother.) Similarily, God’s love extends beyond mere penitent Christians (What was that called? Oh, yes, desire for baptism.) This man has an imperfect (i.e. loss of job due to his consequences and hurting to make an income to take care of his family) desire for baptism. God’s abundance reigns, not mans. If Christians want to behave un-Christian like (unlke the servants of the prodigal father’s house), then God can easily (out of mercy and love) give those Christians circumstances which to appreciate His mercy, love, fidelity, and forgiveness in abundance as the prodigal son and his servant enjoyed. In fact you see it when the father pleaded to his older son. His older son missed and was quite short sited upon his father’s love extending beyond the home front (“he was dead and now has come back alive” – I paraphrase the father’s statement to his son.) So, yeah, cut him slack.

  • Paul H

    I am happy to see Mr. Smith’s apology.

    I also feel bad for the guy. He brought the consequences on himself to a large extent, but I don’t think he deserves to receive death threats, or to be forced to move because he fears for his family’s safety. And while he obviously should never have been so mean to that woman or posted the video in the first place, still it is worth noting that he fairly quickly thought better of it and took the video down. It is only because other YouTube users copied and re-posted his original video that it still exists on YouTube, and Mr. Smith has no control over that.

  • moderateGuy

    Outside of Obama’s speechyfying this was one of the most insincere performances I’ve seen. What a creep!

  • Brad D

    Adam Smith lost his job because he let his hate, intolerance, and closed minded religious bigotry get the better of him. The sad thing is that most liberals like Adam Smith genuinely don’t comprehend just how closed minded, hateful, misogynistic, intolerant, and bigoted they really are. Maybe this experience will open his eyes and he’ll finally see himself for what he is and change.

  • tammy

    Yep, should have stopped at four minutes.
    I taught my kids that when you say you’re sorry, say you’re sorry and don’t try to qualify what you did wrong.
    With that said, I give him props for doing this.

  • Norm

    I don’t, for one second, believe that he made the original video and posted it for any other reason than to FEED HIS OWN EGO. And while I do believe he had some guilt later, I do not believe this apology video ever would have been made had he not been fired – -Vante’s “radio silence” order aside.

    The apology video itself is just more ego stroking IMHO.


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