Prayer Requests

I’d like to pray for Adam Smith, the rich executive who promptly lost his job after his bullying Youtube performance inflicted on a helpless minimum wage worker (I wonder how many OWS sympathizers will see this as his atrocious treatment of this poor woman as the 1% smashing the 99% and how many will resolutely see this through the delusional template of Persecuted Truthteller Speaking Truth to Power).

I don’t like the bit in Esther when Haman is hanged on the gallows he built for the Jews. So I’m not happy that his attempt to shame and destroy this woman inspired a bunch of people to destroy his livelihood. I’d be happy with a simple apology to the woman he shamed and tried humiliate on a planetary scale. Indeed, a happy conclusion to this story, for me, would be a Youtube in which just goes and apologizes. I’ll bet money this sweet woman would happily forgive him. Might even be a chance for some actual rapprochement.

That said, it does not yet seem to have occurred to him that he did was wrong, merely that he made a massive tactical blunder, given his total silence and failure to acknowledge the wrong he did this poor humiliated woman. I feel bad that he lost his job, but the sorrow for that is mitigated by the fact that he very carefully made sure to do all he could to pinpoint for his audience of gay “marriage” fascists exactly who this woman is. Given that this crowd is *famous* for tracking down and revealing names, addresses, phone numbers and mounting massive harrassment campaigns against private citizens and that all that he did fits exactly into this pattern, it’s hard for me to feel very bad that he has wound up living out Wile E. Coyote’s Biblical Life Verse: “He who digs a pit will fall into it, and a stone will come back upon him who starts it rolling.” (Proverbs 26:27).

I hope he finds work again (and my guess is that there are lots of places that will hire him). But I hope most of all that he really repents what he did and sees it for what it is, not a tactical blunder, but a real sin against a helpless victim. And I hope the gay fascist contingent does not proceed to make life hell for this innocent woman. I also pray that those of us strongly tempted to gloat over this bully getting his comeuppance (and I am among them) would instead resolve to pray that this issues in redemption, reconciliation and forgiveness. I would hate for some single appalling act of mine to be the only thing I am remembered for. Let it not befall him either. Grant him the chance to learn and grow from this and be reconciled in humility with the woman he tried to shame and humiliate. Most of all, I want to pray that the woman in this video, the only real hero in this story, be given a massive promotion and raise for her beautiful act of turning the other cheek. Father, hear our prayer through your Son Jesus Christ.

In addition, a reader writes:

Please pray for the repose of the soul of my friend Tony. He died on Tuesday of unknown causes while swimming in a lake. He was only 42 years old and leaves behind a loving wife and three great little boys. He was a great husband, father, faithful Catholic, friend, and man. The family has lots of loving support around them but could use a tremendous outpouring of God’s loving grace at this very difficult time.
Father, grant eternal rest to Tony and peace, grace, and strength to all who love him through your Son Jesus Christ. Mother Mary, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.

A reader whose family is tormented by a gay sister in a “marriage” asks for prayer:

1) That I hold fast and not back down on this – have the difficult conversation with my parents and sister (and her “wife”) instead of just holding it inside and backing down from confrontation.
2) That my discussions are done with compassion, dignity and wisdom. I pray that a positive result come of this. Not that I can necessarily change anyone’s mind (though that would be nice) but more that my views are laid out, expressed and respected and that the family is not torn apart as a result of all this.

Father, hear our prayer through your Son Jesus Christ! Mother Mary, pray for my reader and his family.

Finally, a reader who asked for prayer for a boy with a brain tumor writes:

Here is a follow-up on Chase (the little boy with the brain tumor). The tumor was removed, but was found to be malignant. Spores have been found in his brain and spine. He will be starting chemo next week. He and his family are in great need of prayer.

Here is where updates can be found.

Father, hear our prayer for his complete healing through your Son Jesus Christ! Mother Mary, St. Luke, and St. Peregrine, pray for Chase, for his caregivers, and for all who love him.

  • Rosemarie

    +J.M.J+

    I agree.

  • http://thesheepfold.typepad.com The Sheepcat

    Amen to all these intentions.
    The reader with the sister in a same-sex relationship may wish to contact EnCourage, the Catholic apostolate to relatives and friends of persons who have same-sex attractions. He is not alone!
    http://www.couragerc.net/EnCourage.html

  • honeybee

    “Wile E. Coyote’s Biblical Life Verse.” Mark, this is undiluted genius! I laughed myself silly.

    • enness

      That was pretty excellent!

  • Dale Price

    When you’re in the Vanguard of History, it doesn’t matter how many people become collateral damage in your march to the sun-lit realm of Progress.

    As another great champion of inevitable enlightenment pointed out, “Omelettes are not made without breaking eggs.”

    Yeah, that video does nicely encapsule how gay marriage is an obsession of, and crusade by, the elites.

  • Corita

    Amen, amen.

    My husband was so incensed that Adam Smith lost his job that he claims he will contact the company to tell them. I think Mark is correct about the irony of the man’s ideological cohorts’ tactics coming back on him. My husband thinks that the fact that the company fired him so quickly is a sign of our deranged times. We watched that old famous clip of Buckley and Vidal arguing earlier today; I remarked that they certainly would have been fired, today, for their lost tempers alone– never mind the name-calling! He is angry about the highly re-active state of our economic world and political discourse; it has sunk to an all-time low.

    • Dale Price

      There’s a difference between losing your temper in the heat of the moment and deciding to film an attempted humiliation of a private citizen trying to do her job, and then post that attempt on the internet for the entire planet to see. What he did was a bit of premeditated nastiness directed at an innocent, all in the name of a cause which he believes is righteous. It’s no different from what the Phelpsite cult does at funerals.

      Frankly, I don’t understand the outrage on Mr. Smith’s behalf. Pity, sure. Prayers, definitely. But what he did was profoundly nasty, and done with careful forethought. I can’t remotely blame the company for deciding they could no longer work with such an individual, and certainly did not want him to be the face of their enterprise.

      • Rosemarie

        +J.M.J+

        >>>What he did was a bit of premeditated nastiness directed at an innocent, all in the name of a cause which he believes is righteous.

        Exactly. He should have sent a letter to Mr. Cathy, the CEO of Chick-fil-A, expressing his disapproval rather than harassing a low-level employee on the job. That would have been more truly “purposeful.” Seriously, what could that poor lady at the drive-thru window possibly do about the CEO’s beliefs and decisions?

        • DTMcCameron

          Well, given that he couldn’t see how she could live with herself, working with so hateful an corporation, maybe his purpose wasn’t to change the company, but just one mind/heart?…
          Or, incense one into bigoted diatribe, which makes for much better viewing. Commentators might tut-tut the wholly expected reaction.

          But lo, it was not so: she was sweet. Fortunate is the husband of so gracious and patient a lady!

          • Rosemarie

            +J.M.J+

            True, it’s not too clear what that guy wanted to accomplish other than venting his spleen. He also barely let the lady get a word in edgewise. Best I can tell, she was trying to politely say something like, “Well I disagree… we serve everyone here.” Yet he kept cutting her off. This was his show.

  • Confederate Papist

    Mr. Smith would still have his job if he didn’t post the video on the internet.

    Like Mark and others have said before, “the internet is forever”.

    • ds

      Talk about Invisible Hand FAIL. Hope he can find work.

      • Dennis Mahon

        To the best of my knowledge, he is still employed by the University of Arizona.

  • http://www.pilgrimage.subcreators.com Lori Pieper

    The first time I watched the video I was really angry at him. The second time I became aware of how truly pathetic he is. That lovely girl was so sweet to him and it seemed it was finally sinking in with him that what he was doing might not be such a good thing. He tries to end by saying, “I’m a nice guy, really. . . ” And yet he put the stupid thing up on the internet anyway, because he desperately needed some kind of fix to feel good about himself, to feel like a man, to feel “purposeful.” Like I said, pathetic. Let’s pray, as Mark said, that he sees the light, and that in his sufferings, he might learn some humility and respect for others.

  • Mid D.L Rhoade

    I am sure there is a “page 2″ of this story. For him to be fired so quickly may be indicative of previous obnoxious behavior and his company was sick of his actions. I hope he finds another job but more importantly that he learns not to be so smug and mighty.

  • kenneth

    This might sound strange coming from me, but I don’t have a whole lot of sympathy for Smith. His actions were not only seriously unclassy, they revealed him to be a man who isn’t bright enough for the executive suite.

    I mean seriously, all considerations of decency aside for the moment, a guy at that level of corporate life should know how to exert leverage much more creatively and effectively than that. Someone of his power and money and education and connections and all he can think to do is unload on some poor minimum-wager who is 50 levels below the real decision makers in her company? People who have the juice to become CEOs don’t fight their personal or political battles like street brawlers. They bankroll partisan institutes and media companies and strategists who sell the cause with some subtlety and intelligence. At the very least, they provide several layers of separation and plausibility from the street brawlers THEY hire on the 1 percenter’s behalf. If they want to get personally nasty with other CEO types, they blackball their membership for the cool clubs and their wives make sure the offender’s wives don’t get the plum spots on the boards of the really hip charities….

    He could have done any number of things that would have been fair game AND would have gotten much bigger results. He could have joined the Amazon guy in bankrolling gay marriage campaigns, for example. He could have gone after the “save marriage” outfits at the real crux of the fight who gays consider to be hate groups, who Chick-fil-A bankrolled. If Smith had spent some serious cash to shine a stronger light on those outfits and maybe dug up some new dirt on them, he could have made Chick-fil-A’s position with them untenable. THAT would have plucked Dan Cathy’s rooster much more than making one of his line cashiers the sympathy case of the week.

    Guys in Smith’s position also usually know that they are in a much different position of visibility and responsibility than their company’s mid-level office cubicle folks. Executives are the face of their companies and a part of what drives shareholder confidence and share value. Carrying on like a loon in public is not only embarrassing, it makes stockholders, traders and analysts really nervous. They figure, if this guy’s a loose cannon at a fast food joint, how is he going to hold up when the real pressure is on, when the SEC or FDA or some hostile takeover group comes knocking?

    Above all, everyone in the culture war needs to take a step back and not let it define their lives or consume it. These questions are not going to be won and lost over grilled yard bird and waffle fries! They’ll get sorted out in due time by courts, and the culture and quite frankly, demographics. However it shakes out, the sun WILL rise the day after, your doctor will still gripe about your weight or cholesterol, Wall Street will still have one of their obedient boys in the White House, and the economy will still suck……

    • DTMcCameron

      Cool must be a fair maiden, and Hip a beautiful lassie, to make our lusty young Smith here, behave in a manner un-classy.

      • SecretAgentMan

        I can’t put it in a poem, but social functions like those are where the real deals get made. Nobody made a deal walking into a boardroom; he or she made the deal on the golf course or the cocktail reception and then walked into the boardroom. At that level of society, everything is monetized. Social plums are money plums.

        • SecretAgentMan

          And that was a fun ditty, by the way.

    • SecretAgentMan

      Good post, thanks for it. I’m sorry to see someone whacked over the head for a momentary fault, but then again, as you note, at the level this man’s playing momentary faults aren’t considered trivial. And true, it’s always possible this was the straw that broke the camel’s back — although it wouldn’t be obnoxious behavior in other settings that would have undone him, it would have been poor company performance.

      Anyhow, I hope the fellow lands another job and reorients his anger to more productive and less gauche activities.

  • http://davidgriffey.blogspot.com/ Dave G.

    I can certainly pray for the intentions, but I’ll hold back on too much sympathy for Smith. After all, it’s easy to say I should extend all sympathy and mercy and all to someone who has potentially hurt someone I don’t know. It’s just like forgiving the 9/11 terrorists. Sure I can forgive them. That’s easy. I didn’t lose anything, except a country. But nobody close to me, or even distant to me that I’m aware of. Now extending all this to someone who may have put one of my own children into a global crosshair? That’s where the forgiveness hits the fan. So I’ll go ahead and say he shouldn’t have been fired, I hate it for him, and I’ll pray for him. That’s easy. But I’ll also wait to see what the one who was most affected by his stunt does, and offer my prayers for her all the more.

  • Kay

    I find it interesting that you find Haman in your sympathies. God found him deserving of death. Why does this this concern you?

    By the way, I’m finding myself in serious disbelief. I would appreciate your opinion.

    • DTMcCameron

      Eh…we all make out better than we deserve. I do, anyways. Maybe not in the long run.
      Ahm. Good to mourn over death, over sin, over lost brothers and sisters, no? Surely God is Just and Good? So surely Haman’s path must have grieved Him? ‘s for my Lord, what delights Him ought to delight me, and so that which grieves Him ought to likewise grieve us? Pathway to contrition there, if I remember correctly.

    • Rosemarie

      +J.M.J+

      Even when God must judge the sinner, He takes no delight in punishing him. “As I live, saith the Lord God, I desire not the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way, and live. Turn ye, turn ye from your evil ways” (Ezekiel 33:11).

      Nor does He want us to desire and delight in the destruction of the wicked. “But I say to you, Love your enemies: do good to them that hate you: and pray for them that persecute and calumniate you” (St. Matthew 5:44).

    • Mark Shea

      Xerxes found him deserving of death. I’m not altogether convinced that his will is coterminous with God’s. God tells us through Ezekiel that he takes no pleasure in the death of the wicke.

      I’m not sure what opinion you are looking for. If you mean “disbelief in Jesus” my opinion is “repent and believe the good news”.

      • SecretAgentMan

        Even if God found Haman deserving of death, there are alternatives between a) rebelling and calling God unjust, and b) shouting a rousing hurrah. God doesn’t mind human sorrow, even sorrow for those God punishes.

  • JB

    Saint Paul would seem to be an appropriate intercessor to ask to pray for this Adam Smith, as St Paul was an arrogant persecutor of the innocent until he converted and became an Apostle.

  • Pitchfork

    “(I wonder how many OWS sympathizers will see this as his atrocious treatment of this poor woman as the 1% smashing the 99% and how many will resolutely see this through the delusional template of Persecuted Truthteller Speaking Truth to Power)”

    I’m wondering if this is a serious question or just a way of saying, “Those poor, misguided Occupiers, you know what they probably think of this incident…” No one can speak for all Occupiers, on or off Wall St., but you can bet your last chicken nugget that many of them view this incident precisely as a member of the working class being abused by an obnoxious, much more wealthy jerk. The Young Turks aren’t OWS, but they supported them and they also support gay marriage, etc. Their take on this was exactly the same as Mark’s (in regards to the power dynamics, the obnoxious behavior and the pity of the man being fired for one stupid move).

    I haven’t read this blog enough to know its overall take on Occupy, but I hope they aren’t dismissed as hopelessly misguided and lefty.

    • JB

      “…this incident precisely as a member of the working class being abused by an obnoxious, much more wealthy jerk.”

      Agreed, that was my immediate impression of it. Which by the way is all the more reason why St Paul is an especially appropriate intercessor! :-)

    • Rosemarie

      +J.M.J+

      IIRC, Mark’s view of Occupy was that there were a lot of good, ordinary people in the group, including some veterans, but that a bad element was causing trouble. He also decried some of law enforcement’s treatment of the protesters. As with many other things, he did not toe the conservative line WRT Occupy.

    • Mark Shea

      My question was a real question. The ideological riptides in this incident mean that some people will view through the lens of support for gay “marriage” and others will see it for what it is: a member of the 1% brutally imposing himself on the 99%. My question is how an Occupier would choose to read it.

      I had and have rather a lot of sympathy for Occupiers. I think they see what’s wrong, but have little idea about what to do about it. If you search my blog you’ll see what I’ve said.

      • DTMcCameron

        It’s a class thing? Huh…reckoned it was just a cautionary tale of the pervasiveness of vainglory, and the chase of what, in another time, might be called “Heretical.”

  • Andy

    To me the prayers for this person and many others should be to move away from self-importance. Nothing is gained by berating or belittling anyone. It does not matter who does so. The downfall of the US is not gay marriage for or against; it is the sense of self that pervades all that we do – from blogs (no offense to our host), to posting on YouTube, to Instagram, to the overshares on Facebook …the list is long. I am guilty of that now as I type these words. I pray that I can put away this self-pride and become humble and accepting.
    My respect for that young woman is beyond all else – she modeled what I wish I could do and that this country would do.

  • http://www.brutallyhonest.org Rick
  • Tammy

    I have read as many comments as I could stand on the youtube comments sections on these videos and “conservatives” are being just as hateful as “liberals”…Im so embarrassed by it all. We were mad at this man for trying to express frustration of what he perceives as “hate” with more hate yet folks on (what I might under good circumstances ) “my” side of this argument are acting no better too much of the time.

    We never teach how to love by hating or how to respect by disrespecting…Im sure I am preaching to the choir on this one, thank you for listening.

  • Mike the Geek

    Interesting to know that you disapprove of scripture.

    • Andy, Bad Person

      Have you stopped beating your wife?

      C’mon, man, is that really what you got out of it?

      • Mike the Geek

        See post below. _A_ comment is not necessarily _the only_ comment. This one simply represents something I found disturbing. The next one represented a response to some of the argument.

        BTW – I quit beating people when I onverted.

  • Mike the Geek

    While we’re at it, I don’t get the meaning of “So I’m not happy that his attempt to shame and destroy this woman inspired a bunch of people to destroy his livelihood.” The guy was a senior offier in a company which had every right to expect its senior offiers to behave appropriately. The guy publicly disgraced himself, and that reflects on the competence of a ompany that would make him a senior officer. If the CFO of Microsoft put on a brown shirt and marched in a Nazi parade, I suspect he would be standing in the unemployment line as well. Prayers are appropriate; blaming others for his situation isn’t.

    • Rosemarie

      +J.M.J+

      I think the point was that netizens who disapproved of his video looked up his personal information and started posting it online. The concern is that people are able to do that to a total stranger that they disagree with. Yes, in this case the guy deserved it, but if conservatives could destroy someone’s livelihood then liberals can use the same tactic on those they dislike. If it was done to him it could be done to us. That’s what I think the point is, not that Smith wasn’t deserving of what he got from his employer.

  • Marion (Mael Muire)

    It would seem that it is indicative of misplaced compassion toward Mr. Smith, coupled with a faulty understanding of the expectations business entities place upon their senior executives, to express dismay that Mr. Smith lost his job lost in the aftermath of his (a) publicly berating a fast-food clerk, (b) posting said rant on YouTube, and (c) mentioning the name of the firm he (used to!) work for!

    Corporate America at the senior levels especially is still very hierarchial. Many people feel that’s a bad thing, and I dig, but one good thing about it is this: it is everywhere among class operations considered devilish bad form for a very senior person – one with lots and lots of POWER – to verbally manhandle, berate, and maul a lowly, lowly front-line grunt – one with very little to no POWER at all. She just has to stand there and take it. Can’t answer back. Can’t say, “Oh, yeah, pal? And so’s your Aunt Petunia.” She can’t do that.

    U.S. senior management view that sort of behavior as bullying, and find it utterly disgusting.

    Collar CEO Dan Cathy on his way to play golf one Sunday morning, or confront him on his way to the office. Man to man. Sound off to a fellow senior executive or harass a member of the Board of Directors.

    Pick on someone your own bloody size.

    To young Rachel, especially someone youtubing himself and proclaiming the name of the firm he works for, a customer is within his rights to say, “oh, this cup of water is only half-full. Some more, miss.” or, “it’s unacceptable that you’ve run out of carry out trays, will you ask a manager to come to the window.” And then let the manager have it.

    As a customer you don’t berate a front-line grunt for a company policy they have no power to change. That’s bullying. And the fact that this character was a top business executive with this firm, this makes that firm look like the sort of outfit run by ignorant, loutish, misbehaving creep-os, who haven’t the slightest idea how to treat people or how to behave in public.

    He is so fired. And righteously so.

    Even if I were gay and were the Pres. of his (former) company, I would have his @ss canned in less time it takes to hang up a phone. You can’t have people who treat people like that running your company. You can’t people with that kind of off-the-charts lack of judgement running your company. You can’t.

    Let Mr. Smith find a job as a librarian or a pharmacy clerk or someplace where he can hide out, earn his living, and not disgrace himself or his next firm.

    • Sal

      Marion-
      You know I read your comments with eagerness, but a librarian? They have to not only interact with the public but have to do so while upholding the PC tenets of whatever entity (city, school district, college or university) they work for.
      You see, unlike City Hall or the DMV, no one has to go to the library. So they feel free to treat the staff as low-paid flunkies. Given what we’ve seen of Mr. Smith’s personality, he wouldn’t last a week. Even as a book-shelving clerk, he’d still have to deal with people.

      • Marion (Mael Muire)

        Sal, thank you for your kind remark.

        Yes, that was lame. I was thinking of, and should’ve written, “a reshelver of library materials . . . somewhere in the deepest bowels of some inaccessible national archive . . .”

  • dean steinlage

    when you start your line of Shea-wear, the Wile E. Coyote verse would make a great T-shirt.

  • A Random Friar

    Praying. Simply praying.

  • DJ

    “A reader whose family is tormented by a gay sister in a “marriage” asks for prayer:”
    Here’s my prayer for you. That you and family overcome your paranoid and homophobic hatred and accept your sister and her wife for what they are: family members who you should hold and cherish for the rest of your lives.
    Shame on you.
    In Reason’s name I pray.

    • Marion (Mael Muire)

      “homophobic hatred”

      I do hate. I do hate sin. I hate the sin of Pride. I hate the sin of Avarice. I hate the sin of Wrath. I hate the sin of Lust (subsumes sexual assault and rape, same-sex acts, adultery, fornication, incest, bestiality, contraception, pornography, prostitution, sexual harrasment, molestation of children. I am to hate all of those.). I hate the sin of Gluttony. I hate the sin of Envy. I hate the sin of Sloth.

      Do I hate people? Nope. Are there slothful people? Sure. Do I hate them? I don’t say it’s OK to be slothful, even if slothful people should claim slothful is “who they are.” Because being slothful will not lead any of us to the ultimate happiness that lasts forever . . . just the opposite. Not even someone for who says “Slothful is who I am.” I will always pray for, work for, and hope for as diligently as I can that my slothful friends will find their ways to God and to change.

      Same with my envious friends. Same with my lustful friends.

      If anyone says I should hope that somebody caught up in a way of life that will is leading them away from God and happiness, will continue down that road to loss, then I would say that is what is hateful.

      Hateful. It’s not just a word to throw out, as if you’re saying, “You’re ugly and your mother dresses you funny.” It has a meaning. An actual, reasonable meaning.

      And it means 180 degrees the opposite of what you seem to think it means. This is what happens when a culture has the misfortune to remove the underpinnings of an objective moral order. We’re left with people shrilling at each other, “My synapses in my brain crackle wildly and brighter than your synapses!”
      “No! My synapses unleash sparks of power eclipsing your synapses.”

      Sound and fury, signifying nothing.

      How unreasonable is futility.

      Don’t you long for something that actually is?

      • MaryS

        Well said – thank you!

        “And it means 180 degrees the opposite of what you seem to think it means.” – about the word “hate”. So true! And, like the words “gay”, “love”, “tolerance”, and now “marriage” – the meanings of our words are being changed under our noses by those who want to re-make society into something entirely different. When we don’t have the same meanings for words, how can we understand each other? How can we even continue the dialog?

        • Chris M

          thank you, Mary. Now THAT is reason.. and wisdom.

    • Corita

      DJ,
      When I read that request I wondered what the word “torment” meant in context. Was it torment for the family *just* to have a gay sister? (In which case I would pray that they figure out how to accept and love the sister, realizing the limits of their own control and the wide realm of God’s.) Or is there a more complex family dynamic, including some version of the sister making emotional and spiritual demands of the family to accept her in a particular way that they cannot, despite their other attempts to love and cherish her?

      Perhaps the fear and smallness of love is on both sides. I pray for all of the family members to grow in love for each other, especially recognizing that we cannot usually have our needs for love and acceptance met by our families, and that we cannot control other people into being and doing what we think they should.

  • Marion

    To my fellow Catholics: Important not to feel intimadated by words like “hate”, “intolerance”, “bigotry.”

    When spoken by persons whose moral and philosophical foundation is, essentially, “If it feels good, do it,” any perjoratives hurled your way carry the moral and philosophical substance that can safely be loaded into an empty bottle of Yoo-hoo drink floating on the mighty Mississippi.

    Got nuthin’! And, if you fall for it, you are being, if you forgive my being blunt, a chump.

    And a chump of the first water!

    • Dennis Mahon

      To my fellow Catholics: Important not to feel intimidated (sic) by words like “hate”, “intolerance”, “bigotry.”

      As Kathy Shaidle pointed out, the only people cowed by a charge of “racism” are those who are not racist. “Homophobe” holds no more cachet than “counter-revolutionary” or “antideestablishmentarian” — it’s a political attack word, meant to elicit a feeling of guilt for something you are not guilty of.


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