Ramadan Blues and Mommy Guilt

This past May, I was blessed to give birth to a beautiful baby boy. It took a bit of adjusting, but as we already have two girls, I do view myself as a slightly experienced parent and as such, I was prepared. I knew what to expect, kind of. Compared to my previous experiences, this time has been a breeze, thank God. Baby eats well, my body has been healing well, and I have been able to sleep quite a bit. Not enough, but quite a bit. What I wasn’t prepared for, however, is the spiritual wasteland … [Read more...]

I <3 the Moon Calendar

Pumpkin with a palm tree and crescent moon carved into it.

This post was written by Brooke Benoit and originally published on her blog.This Ramadan is hard. Right smack in the middle of summer, these are the longest fasts of my Muslim life, it’s hot, and the kids are home all day. Well, my kids are always home all day, but I’m sure that’s an extra challenge for most Ramadaners.I have six children and they are currently kind of a mess. My eldest two want to just stay up all night so as to not miss suhoor and indeed they are very hard to wake for s … [Read more...]

Finding My Ramadan Prayers

My prayer book.

Fasting during Ramadan is one of the easiest duties for me as a Muslim. Even though I've struggled with my faith and with praying five times daily, I always maintain my fast, and passionately too. This year I started fasting on Mondays and Thursdays, according to Sunnah, after considering it for a while. My mother and elders encouraged me to by telling me of the benefits I would enjoy by fasting outside Ramadan, and on my part I quite liked the prospect of saving up on lunch money, as eating out … [Read more...]

Should I or Shouldn’t I: Confusions about Fasting while Breastfeeding

I am in that phase of my life where I am exclusively breastfeeding, I have a three-month-old baby, and it’s Ramadan. This is that elusive phase where I can get away with not fasting. The question remains: should I? Considering that I have been blessed to fast all my adult life, and part of my childhood too, I am reflecting on what the past Ramadans have been for me, in order to decide which way to choose this year.SpiritualityRamadan is about how much closer to Allah we get during this m … [Read more...]

When Fasting Is Not For God

The writer of this post wishes to remain anonymous.Trigger warning: This post contains discussions of body image and disordered eating.The first Ramadan that I fasted, I was struck by how easy I found it.This was not exactly a good thing.  I had struggled with control issues around food, and with my perception of my body, since I was a pre-teen, long before I was Muslim.  When I began fasting, in my early twenties, it quickly became clear to me that the satisfaction that I got from b … [Read more...]

“Not Even Birthday Cake?” Or, Coping With (Non-Muslims’) Reactions to Ramadan

gorgeous calligraphy, created by cruel uncultured barbarians no doubt.

This guest post by Nahida was originally published at the fatal feminist.When I was small, my schoolyard friends would gasp in shock at the idea of going without food or water for as long as a drop of sunlight hit the pavement. (“All day?” they’d marvel with the same tone that they’d ask, “You run THAT fast?”) Pleased with the astonished reaction, I would boast that not only could I abstain an entire day without complaints, but I had already done it not once but twice. (“Did you die?” ask … [Read more...]

The Fullness of Solitude

Table Mountain.  Image via Noorgraphy 2013.

This post was written by guest contributor @leftyspeaks.Many of us wish for a new beginning, a clean slate, an opportunity to leave everything behind and start afresh.  A few short weeks ago, I left my home on the southern tip of Africa, to spread my wings across the Atlantic, in search of knowledge.  I left behind all that was dear to me – the beautiful sunrises, the extravagant Table Mountain, my family and friends, and my African coffee – to plant roots in the “high rise” habitat that … [Read more...]


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