Monday and Tuesday, we examined some Muslim matrimonial sites. Yesterday, we conducted an experiment looking at how these sites functioned and how our subjects fared. Today, I’ll digest all this information and figure out what it means for Muslim women.
Something to keep in mind when joining this websites is the fact that men tend to be, in general, older. Furthermore, many of the men on these sites would like to engage in polygamy at some point in their lives, and they aim to let the women know up front in their profiles, particularly in MuslimMatch.com. Also, women who have successful careers and who are wealthier than many of these men may become an economic target rather than a marriage partner.
Whether these technological advancements in terms of marriage are more modern or not is questionable. It is still easy to see that representations of femininity and masculinity remain fairly consistent. Men still expect to marry younger women, who have never been married and who don’t have children. They also expect to be attractive to Muslim, North African and Arab women without any sense of romance, softness or even interest in the partner. However, it is assumed that a man should deal differently with Western girls.
Some men on these sites view marriage as a tool for financial and social advancement. Thus, financially stable women in the West, who are single and don’t have children, and despite their religious practices, have better opportunities of finding a husband in these websites than other women. There is no telling how stable or fulfilling the marriage may be.