Salt Lake Tribune Op-ed: Accurate Sex Education for Teens

With three colleagues of mine – all experienced therapists working within the Mormon community and all Certified Sex Therapists – we decided to write the following op-ed after receiving several concerned questions from parents about the Fight the New Drug organization being allowed to present their materials in public school settings.  We will be using The [Read More…]

I’m Gay and this is My Church Too!

With General Conference among us, I know we are bound to hear much about the ideal Mormon family status: a heteronormative couple married with children. We already had this be the case in the General Women’s Session. Unfortunately, this type of focus continues to discount and minimize the presence of many other types of family [Read More…]

Troubling Report is Disavowed – Yes, of course!

Today, faculty members of John Hopkins University published an op-ed in The Baltimore Sun, Hopkins faculty disavow ‘troubling’ report on gender and sexuality stating their stark disapproval of the review that had been published in The New Atlantis, Sexuality and Gender. On September 8, I wrote a blog post titled, Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?, where BYU [Read More…]

“Virtue” Reclaimed

I remember being taught in YW and Sunday school as a youth that it would be better to die than live as a rape victim or have sex outside of marriage. That I should defend my virtue “even unto death”. That is so messed up. I’m glad to see the change in the Young Women’s [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

A Critique on “The Great Porn Experiment”

In 2012 Gary Wilson gave a Ted Talk called The Great Porn Experiment where many claims were made that do not have scientific backing. These types of efforts to educate the public backfire by giving people misinformation that then affects such things as relationships, parenting strategies, sexual education, and even mental health treatment. Fight the New [Read More…]

I’m aroused… Now what?

So after yesterday’s post I thought I’d offer the following suggestions parents can talk to their adolescents about as strategies they can use when they notice they are experiencing sexual arousal. Notice. Huh…I’m noticing I’m having an arousal response… (this might happen in either an intellectual, emotional or physical way — from a fantasy thought in [Read More…]

Are Mormon Men Weak Minded?

Yet again we see a story where young women are held accountable for the sexual arousal of their male peers due to their clothing. Utah Cheerleaders Feel ‘Body Shamed’ After Male Classmate Complains That Their Skirts Led to ‘Impure’ Thoughts This seems a silly story to report on, if it wasn’t so prevalent in our [Read More…]

No Repentance Needed for Abuse Survivors!!

A friend shared this talk, Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse by Elder Richard G. Scott, in a FB group I’m a part of and was confused by it. I wondered what you thought. This is a group that supports survivors of childhood abuse.  I believe there are many who have experienced abuse who find this [Read More…]

Messages Teens Pick Up when we Teach Shame-Based Sex Ed

Today’s guest post is written by Maya Dehlin. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Maya is an 18 year old, recent graduate of high school. She received the prestigious Utah’s Sterling Scholar in English, runs her own photography business (Tear Off the Mask) and is currently taking a [Read More…]