Double Binds Hurt Us


The Deseret News published a lengthy article today, LDS Church Leaders Mourn Reported Deaths in Mormon LGBT Community, addressing the number of reported suicides among LDS LGBT youth since the policy announcement of last November.*  Much of what was stated was very useful information: the interplay between depression/despair and environmental factors (i.e. family/community rejection, bullying, [Read More...]

When my Loved Ones Don’t Leave the Church


Faith transitions are brutal – for everyone involved.  Those who are facing information or experiences that no longer resonate with their religious upbringing or conversion find themselves in painful situations where they feel confusion, pain, tremendous loss, doubts, having to redefine much of their personal, spiritual and relational identities, and are often facing less than [Read More...]

Using Caution and Perspective to avoid Fear & Anxiety

As someone who has treated myriads of people who struggle with anxiety disorders, and have struggled with it a bit myself – it is important for our mental health and overall well-being to be aware of the many positive ways our world is continually becoming a better place. The human race has made progress in [Read More...]

4 Bullies to Avoid During the Holidays

The Holiday season can be a mixed bag for sure when it comes to our mental and spiritual health. It’s a time many look forward to and gather with loved ones remembering cherished memories – and focusing on spiritual meaning.  It can also be a time full of stress, financial worries, loneliness and exacerbated grief [Read More...]

Spiritual Thoughts for the Day

Some scriptures I heard discussed in a sermon today that are so relevant when we think about our relationships with those we care most about – especially in times such as the holiday season upon us, where we can get so carried away with our many to-do lists: The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to [Read More...]

Making Sense of the Research on Homosexuality

I was recently invited to be one of the panelists on a Mormon Matters Podcast episode where I am joined by the host Dan Wotherspoon, and his other guests Dr. Daniel Parkinson (founder of the I’ll Walk With You Project) and retired BYU professor Dr. William Bradshaw (microbiologist).  It is a fascinating interview that covers so [Read More...]

Spiritual Thoughts for the Day

I find all of these inspirational quotes very applicable to how I’m feeling about the policy changes the Church made earlier this month affecting LGBTQ members and their families. “The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word ‘crisis.’ One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware [Read More...]

When What is Normal is Declared Sin

I have made many points as to why I take the stances I do in regards to the LDS positions around LGBTQ issues.  But at some level it really boils down to the following: when a religion takes a normal part of someone’s life – in this case, who they fall in love with and [Read More...]

Spiritual Thought

It is sad to see so many of our fold officially resigning from the Church in response to the recent policy changes in regards to LGBTQ members. I understand and respect that for many this is a move towards boundaries and safety that are necessary for their relational, spiritual and mental health.  I also see [Read More...]

Now We’re Blaming the Victims?

Michael Otterson recently wrote an article for LDS Newsroom, Understanding the Handbook where he states: The episode demonstrates clearly the dangers of drawing conclusions based on incomplete news reports, tweets and Facebook posts without necessary context and accurate information. The Church quickly responded to many of those concerns with a video interview with Elder D. Todd Christofferson, a member of the [Read More...]