Upcoming Presentations in Arizona


For those of you who are interested – I will be one of the presenters at Sunstone Southwest on February 20th.  I will also be offering my Sexuality after a Mormon Transition workshop on February 21st. [Read more...]

Double Binds Hurt Us


The Deseret News published a lengthy article today, LDS Church Leaders Mourn Reported Deaths in Mormon LGBT Community, addressing the number of reported suicides among LDS LGBT youth since the policy announcement of last November.*  Much of what was stated was very useful information: the interplay between depression/despair and environmental factors (i.e. family/community rejection, bullying, [Read More...]

When my Loved Ones Don’t Leave the Church


Faith transitions are brutal – for everyone involved.  Those who are facing information or experiences that no longer resonate with their religious upbringing or conversion find themselves in painful situations where they feel confusion, pain, tremendous loss, doubts, having to redefine much of their personal, spiritual and relational identities, and are often facing less than [Read More...]

Intimacy vs. Protection Quote


Protection, although often loving, is not intimacy.  It may be a part of intimacy – but more often than not, it gets in the way of it. “I try to protect you from the parts of me that might hurt you.”  Or “I try to protect myself from the parts of you that hurt me.” [Read More...]

Midwest Workshop – Healing from Faith Transitions


    REGISTRATION FOUND AT THE FOLLOWING LINK:  http://religioustransitions.org/kansascity2016/   [Read more...]

Upcoming Sexual Intimacy Workshops in December


I’ll be giving two presentations while I’m out in Utah during Christmas break in a few weeks. The first is sponsored by Mormon Matters and A Thoughtful Faith and is called Intimacy and Happiness in Mormon Marriage. The second is sponsored by Mormon Transitions and is called Sexuality After a Mormon Transition. Both have limited [Read More...]

Spiritual Thoughts for the Day

Some scriptures I heard discussed in a sermon today that are so relevant when we think about our relationships with those we care most about – especially in times such as the holiday season upon us, where we can get so carried away with our many to-do lists: The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to [Read More...]

Clarification is Deficient

The First Presidency came out with a ‘clarification’ letter today regarding the policies that were released last week. I see only two slight positives. 1. Less families/children will be affected. 2. Local authority will have more leeway to act (hopefully) appropriately by ignoring these policies all together.  But the fact remains that the policies are still [Read More...]

Families Post #4

These stories are very personal and can be emotionally and psychologically triggering. Alyssa Carlson Paquette I’m at work today, and barely able to concentrate. This is the first day our 12yo son is *finally* back at our home, after his usual week at his (gay) mom’s home. He made it halfway through school before he [Read More...]

Families Post #3

These stories are very personal and can be emotionally and psychologically triggering. Posted Anonymously My ex has decided to take me to court to take my kids away. This all came about after the policy change. I’m gay and we divorced several years ago.  Up until this past weekend, we were getting along well.   [Read More...]