We Are Not the Authorities on “Counterfeit Marriage”….

I wrote a post at the beginning of the week celebrating a video the church released showing a family being affirmative of their gay son and owning the many ways their ignorance and bias had harmed him and their family system. I was so moved and genuinely celebrated this step in the right direction that [Read More…]

Marital Intimacy and the Importance of Framing

Wendy Watson Nelson gave a talk at the January 2017 Worldwide Devotional for Young Adults that focused on marital intimacy. As a fellow Mormon and with my expertise as a certified sex therapist, I saw some very helpful aspects of her talk as well as some vague, incorrect and even harmful assumptions that can set [Read More…]

Why is the “sex addiction” diagnosis harmful?

Dr. David Ley was recently interviewed by a reporter about sex addiction and the recent AASECT position statement. I have permission to post the writings he prepared for the interview.  This is an EXCELLENT read! Excellent in helping explain that when we, as sex-positive and certified sex therapists, stand against sex addiction — we are [Read More…]

AASECT Position on Sex and Porn NOT being Addictive

Breaking news in the sex therapy field! “This Statement was sent to the over 2,000 AASECT members this afternoon. It is the first statement of its kind by a national sexuality, mental health, sexual medicine, sexual science or sexuality education national organization in the United States to make a written statement of position on the [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

Upcoming Presentations – Take Advantage

I am often asked if I would be willing to present in areas outside of Salt Lake City. Well, here are two such opportunities!! HOUSTON I’ve been asked to speak at Houston Oasis on October 2, 2016. The title of my presentation will be How do we and Who Gets to Define Healthy Sexuality? and this event is [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Assessments

Many people take online “sex/porn addiction” assessments to see if they would qualify for the “diagnosis” that I’ve already noted does not exist. None of these assessment tools have been approved by any governing mental health body.  Most of the questions are completely subjective and make it so that many people could easily qualify…. for [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Treatment

I have written and talked a lot about the controversial issues surrounding “sex/porn addiction.” This has been such an important topic for me to focus on because of the large amounts of LDS people who have come through my office having either self-diagnosed or spouse-diagnosed as an addict (for usually much less behavior than the [Read More…]

A Ward’s Embrace to a Gay LDS Couple

Today’s guest post is written by Nick Einbender. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Nick and Spencer Mickelson met at the annual Affirmation Conference in 2014 and, as they say, the rest is history. Nick is a dentist in the United States Air Force and Spencer works [Read More…]

What is Sex Positivity?

What is meant when you use the term “sex positive?” This is an excellent question. And like many terms (i.e. feminism, spirituality, academics, philosophy, etc.), it can be defined in different ways by different people and organizations.  However, I will try to explain the basis of how we generally use this term within the mental [Read More…]