Morality? We can do much better than this…

I was shocked to read the most recent article on sexual morality that was just published in the March 2014 issue of the Ensign by Elder Tad R. Callister regarding a recent fireside he gave at BYU-Idaho, and have spoken with several other LDS professional therapists who were shocked as well.  I do not take [Read More...]

Teaching about Chastity to the Youth

This is an email I wrote in reply to the Young Women’s presidency in my ward wanting some feedback as to good quotes/resources for teaching about chastity – which is the theme this month.  So this is the quick email I responded with: sorry it’s written in a somewhat discombobulated way: I know which scripture [Read More...]

Part of Panel on Mormon Matters re Virtue

I was recently involved on a panel discussion over at Mormon Matters regarding “virtue.”  Here is the description from Dan Wotherspoon: So often in Mormon discourse, the term “virtue” is treated almost exclusively as relating to sexual purity, chastity, and virginity, completely missing its much broader and wonderfully expansive meanings. Similarly, most talk about “morality,” [Read More...]

My spouse wants a divorce but I don’t…

I’ve been married 32+ years to a wonderful woman.  We married early, she was 20 and I was 24.  We were both in college but her family was critical and unsupportive when she was baptized (prior to dating me): she felt very alone.  When we began dating, I was in heaven; she was [is] so beautiful and I felt so lucky that [Read More...]

Impact Of and Healing From Infidelity

Check out my latest podcast on Mormon Mental Health where I interview Adam Fisher, regarding infidelity and its implications for marital and family systems.  We discuss different forms of betrayal/infidelity, how couples can navigate through the tremendous pain which follows, how some marriages will dissolve and other marriages survive and even thrive after such an event [Read More...]

Review of “Ashamed No More”

Patheos invited me to review Ashamed No More by T. C. Ryan who writes about his own life experience battling sexual compulsive behavior from adolescence on while simultaneously serving his church as a senior pastor for 20 years.  The first half of the book does a thorough job of describing the “set up” many religious people [Read More...]

How can I go to the temple if I’m still masturbating?

So, I just made a donation and am really only looking for an answer via e-mail, unless you think it isn’t beating a dead horse to keep talking about it.  I am a single, LDS woman, age 31, and I have had issues with…well, I am too embarrassed to even type it. You can imagine [Read More...]

My Official Stance on Masturbation

What about masturbation if you are endowed and unmarried? I am 29 and have my endowments and have this problem.  I am trying to stop the guilt and tell myself it is ok but is it? The following post is extremely important for me personally and the opinions I will share have been 7-10 years [Read More...]

I’ve started masturbating and I don’t know what to do…

I need help…. I started masturbating about 6 months ago.  I am really struggling to stop.  I never experienced climax like this in my whole life until I experimented with a vibrator I have that is for neck pain.  It is really amazing… but I am a spiritual person and LDS.  I am just so [Read More...]

I am suffering from premature ejaculation…

I am currently suffering from premature ejaculation, a problem which is negatively impacting my sexual relationship with my wife. I wish I was a “minute-man” — I’m more like a “30-second-man”! I’ve been prescribed Paxil, which has helped, but I don’t like the way SSRIs make me feel, and I’d rather not become dependent on [Read More...]