Faith Transition Seen Through the Lens of Trauma

Why do faith transitions hurt so badly? Many of my non-Mormon friends don’t seem to understand why a shift in my beliefs is leaving me so depressed and broken? What is wrong with me? Is it normal to take what I feel like is a huge, painful betrayal so hard? This is absolutely normal. It [Read More…]

2 Upcoming Retreats for Faith Transition Folks

I will be a co-presenter at two upcoming retreats (Dallas July 7-8 and Salt Lake City July 14-16) meant to help those who have or are going through what we call a “faith transition.” This can mean those who have left their religion all together, those who are facing doubts or questions about their religion [Read More…]

Sabbath Delight

As I contemplate the many principles we try to live as Latter-day Saints… I often think of how these principles (the ones that would actually originate from divinity)… would be meant for our benefit. And how often I have messed up this basic principle about principles — where I use them as a measuring stick [Read More…]

We Are Not the Authorities on “Counterfeit Marriage”….

I wrote a post at the beginning of the week celebrating a video the church released showing a family being affirmative of their gay son and owning the many ways their ignorance and bias had harmed him and their family system. I was so moved and genuinely celebrated this step in the right direction that [Read More…]

Faith Transitions Pain

I have permission to share the following poem anonymously written by someone who has experienced a faith transition (changes in belief) for many years. This was written towards the beginning of their process while this person was still a student at Brigham Young University. Is it destiny That’s making me? Am I breaking down? Or [Read More…]

Research Study on LDS Members & Mental Health Counseling

I received this request today from a masters level student doing research on LDS members and how they approach mental health counseling for emotional and/or relational concerns. Let’s help a research student out by filling out the short survey attached. My name is Dane Abegg, and I am a master’s student under the direction of [Read More…]

Utah’s Escalating Suicide Rates

Two articles were released this week that deal with the growing and alarming number of suicide rates in Utah.  One is written by Daniel Parkinson, a Mormon psychiatrist who identifies as gay and has done much advocacy work around LGBT+ issues. Utah’s Escalating Suicide Crisis and LDS LGBTQ Despair The second is written by Thomas [Read More…]

Upcoming Events and Resources

Several things I want to make known as far as things I will be or have been involved with recently and in the following weeks: Sunstone Phoenix: I will be presenting with my colleague Kristin Marie Bennion at Sunstone Phoenix this coming weekend on March 11th for two presentations: Porn, Addiction and Mormonism as well as Kids and Pornography [Read More…]

Mormon Women March and Stand for Virtue

I had the amazing honor and privilege to be able to attend the Women’s March in Washington DC in January with a wonderful group of Mormon women (women who ranged from fully active in our church community to those who have resigned or no longer attend but still honor their Mormon roots and heritage). We [Read More…]

Marital Intimacy and the Importance of Framing

Wendy Watson Nelson gave a talk at the January 2017 Worldwide Devotional for Young Adults that focused on marital intimacy. As a fellow Mormon and with my expertise as a certified sex therapist, I saw some very helpful aspects of her talk as well as some vague, incorrect and even harmful assumptions that can set [Read More…]