Salt Lake Tribune Op-ed: Accurate Sex Education for Teens

With three colleagues of mine – all experienced therapists working within the Mormon community and all Certified Sex Therapists – we decided to write the following op-ed after receiving several concerned questions from parents about the Fight the New Drug organization being allowed to present their materials in public school settings.  We will be using The [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

A Critique on “The Great Porn Experiment”

In 2012 Gary Wilson gave a Ted Talk called The Great Porn Experiment where many claims were made that do not have scientific backing. These types of efforts to educate the public backfire by giving people misinformation that then affects such things as relationships, parenting strategies, sexual education, and even mental health treatment. Fight the New [Read More…]

I’m aroused… Now what?

So after yesterday’s post I thought I’d offer the following suggestions parents can talk to their adolescents about as strategies they can use when they notice they are experiencing sexual arousal. Notice. Huh…I’m noticing I’m having an arousal response… (this might happen in either an intellectual, emotional or physical way — from a fantasy thought in [Read More…]

Are Mormon Men Weak Minded?

Yet again we see a story where young women are held accountable for the sexual arousal of their male peers due to their clothing. Utah Cheerleaders Feel ‘Body Shamed’ After Male Classmate Complains That Their Skirts Led to ‘Impure’ Thoughts This seems a silly story to report on, if it wasn’t so prevalent in our [Read More…]

Upcoming Presentations – Take Advantage

I am often asked if I would be willing to present in areas outside of Salt Lake City. Well, here are two such opportunities!! HOUSTON I’ve been asked to speak at Houston Oasis on October 2, 2016. The title of my presentation will be How do we and Who Gets to Define Healthy Sexuality? and this event is [Read More…]

Messages Teens Pick Up when we Teach Shame-Based Sex Ed

Today’s guest post is written by Maya Dehlin. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Maya is an 18 year old, recent graduate of high school. She received the prestigious Utah’s Sterling Scholar in English, runs her own photography business (Tear Off the Mask) and is currently taking a [Read More…]

Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?

The recent article regarding gender and sexual orientation posted in The New Atlantis has started a flurry of discussion in religiously conservative circles. When talking with some colleagues within the sexual field about how we can respond to this, one stated, “It’s crap. That’s the only response it deserves.” And I agree. Yet I know [Read More…]

Upcoming Mormon Matters Retreat!

I’m excited to announce that I will be leading the following retreat, Navigating a Healthy Mormon Journey, with my colleague Dr. Marty Erickson and fellow podcast host, Dan Wotherspoon.  These types of retreats have been very highly ranked in the past and we are excited to be offering this format to Mormons looking to stay engaged [Read More…]

Tone Does Need to Change

Today’s guest post is written by Lori Bolland Embree. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.   Lori Bolland Embree is from Parker, Idaho, raised by a Lutheran father and an LDS mother. She was a high school teacher and debate coach for many years, and now teaches [Read More…]