Room For All In This Church

This is a statement many of us who are involved on the Mormon-themed internet have come up with in response to the possible disciplinary actions facing Kate Kelly and John Dehlin.   We face a difficult and pivotal moment in Mormonism as LDS leaders and church members wrestle more openly with complicated aspects of our faith, its doctrine, and its history—often in spaces afforded by the Internet. In light of possible disciplinary action against prominent voices among us, we … [Read more...]

Differentiate: not Excommunicate!!

Today I received the news that both a brother and sister of my church community are being threatened with the process of excommunication.  The reason stated: apostasy. Attempting to put aside my own personal feelings of sadness, confusion and distress, I would like to address this issue from the lens of family systems.  After all, a central part of Mormonism is this concept of a universal family – all being seen as children of God.  In fact we call our congregations “ward … [Read more...]

New Podcasts

Please check out the latest podcasts over at Mormon Mental Health which share some extremely important messages and have guests who were willing to speak to our LDS community from some really important organizations. SAMHSA on Mormon Mental Health : Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Administrator Pam Hyde, J.D. from SAMHSA, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, a public health agency within the Department of Health and Human Services.  They discuss a variety of … [Read more...]

Teaching about Chastity to the Youth

This is an email I wrote in reply to the Young Women's presidency in my ward wanting some feedback as to good quotes/resources for teaching about chastity - which is the theme this month.  So this is the quick email I responded with: sorry it's written in a somewhat discombobulated way: I know which scripture should NOT be read is the one in Moroni 9:9.  That is a rape/pillaging scripture and should not be used to teach about normal sexual development/exploration. My main concerns with … [Read more...]

Relief Society: True Charity & Pure Religion

Here is the Relief Society lesson I've prepared for Sunday, July 14th. My favorite quotes and scriptures from the lesson: I was hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me... Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my sisters, ye have done it unto me.  Matthew 25: 35, 36 & 40 And charity … [Read more...]

My spouse wants a divorce but I don’t…

I've been married 32+ years to a wonderful woman.  We married early, she was 20 and I was 24.  We were both in college but her family was critical and unsupportive when she was baptized (prior to dating me): she felt very alone.  When we began dating, I was in heaven; she was [is] so beautiful and I felt so lucky that she would have anything to do with me.  It wasn't long before I popped the question but she did not give me an answer right away.  I think I understood this … [Read more...]

Be Anxiously Engaged

My Relief Society Lesson for tomorrow. Taken from Elder M Russell Ballard's talk: Be Anxiously Engaged. Verily I say, women should be anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness; for the power is in them...  Doctrine & Covenants 58: 27-28 My favorite quotes from the lesson: Though seemingly insignificant when compared to the total, each bee's one-twelfth is vital to the life of the hive.  The bees depend on … [Read more...]

“In Session” Interview

I was interviewed by In Session two weeks ago in regards to the Jodi Arias case in Arizona.  Here is the link: Therapist: Alexander likely felt guilty about sex. Looks like I will be interviewed again today. … [Read more...]

Miscarriage from an LDS Perspective

Check out my newest podcast interview on Mormon Mental Health looking at miscarriage through a Mormon perspective.  Thank you to Jenni Brighton for an excellent interview and her work helping to develop The Amethyst Network.   Mormon Mental Health: Miscarriage from an LDS Perspective Part 1 Mormon Mental Health: Miscarriage from an LDS Perspective Part 2 … [Read more...]

My BYU son is smoking…

I’m hoping you can help me with an issue I’m having with my 26-year-old son. He is a full time student at BYU and he is living at home right now because he is “off track.” He is a temple recommend holding return missionary, has always been very active in church, holds a responsible calling, supports himself financially, and is mostly very respectful and obedient. I suspect most everyone who knows him would be shocked to hear about my concern. For some time now, every time he returns home … [Read more...]


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