Finding your ACE Score

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study I recommend we familiarize ourselves with.  The reality that childhood trauma affects our health, social, and economic wellbeing is one that needs addressing.  Especially behavior that can often be seen through the religious lens of “sin” instead of seeing a larger picture that can often be much more complicated. Figuring out your [Read More...]

Clergy or Family Sex Abuse Study

Current study being done out of Nova Southeastern University comparing effects of clergy sexual abuse to incest.  These are very difficult issues for those who have lived through them – if you think it might be helpful to your healing process to participate in such a study, please follow the link below.  Feel free to [Read More...]

Teaching about Chastity to the Youth

This is an email I wrote in reply to the Young Women’s presidency in my ward wanting some feedback as to good quotes/resources for teaching about chastity – which is the theme this month.  So this is the quick email I responded with: sorry it’s written in a somewhat discombobulated way: I know which scripture [Read More...]

Part of Panel on Mormon Matters re Virtue

I was recently involved on a panel discussion over at Mormon Matters regarding “virtue.”  Here is the description from Dan Wotherspoon: So often in Mormon discourse, the term “virtue” is treated almost exclusively as relating to sexual purity, chastity, and virginity, completely missing its much broader and wonderfully expansive meanings. Similarly, most talk about “morality,” [Read More...]

Interview re Forgiveness

Check out my latest interview on Mormon Matters regarding the concept of forgiveness within the context of abusive relationships. Abuse and the Forgiveness Dilemma [Read more...]

How do I help my wife overcome sexual trauma and dysfunction?

I am a 50+ year old life-long member who is eternally committed to a talented and caring LDS woman and our 30+ year temple marriage. Our children are grown and all but one has left the nest. We have struggled with intimacy and sexual dysfunction our entire marriage. Not withstanding that we were chaste during [Read More...]

Continuation of Answer Re Sexual Fantasies

I don’t believe I touched enough on the issue of sexual fantasies in my previous answer to question/comments posted. I have found that married couples in the LDS community, or even other religiously conservative communities, many times have challenges within the realm of their sexuality. Most of us spent the first part of our lives [Read More...]


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