Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Assessments

Many people take online “sex/porn addiction” assessments to see if they would qualify for the “diagnosis” that I’ve already noted does not exist. None of these assessment tools have been approved by any governing mental health body.  Most of the questions are completely subjective and make it so that many people could easily qualify…. for [Read More…]

Beware of Sex Addiction Treatment

I have written and talked a lot about the controversial issues surrounding “sex/porn addiction.” This has been such an important topic for me to focus on because of the large amounts of LDS people who have come through my office having either self-diagnosed or spouse-diagnosed as an addict (for usually much less behavior than the [Read More…]

What is Sex Positivity?

What is meant when you use the term “sex positive?” This is an excellent question. And like many terms (i.e. feminism, spirituality, academics, philosophy, etc.), it can be defined in different ways by different people and organizations.  However, I will try to explain the basis of how we generally use this term within the mental [Read More…]

A Not-A-Mother’s Thoughts For Mother’s Day

Today’s guest post is written by Janell Jensen Gehmlich and is a slightly edited copy of a sacrament meeting talk she was asked to give on Mother’s Day. The original can be found on Childless Mormon Support: Helping Childless LDS Women Find their Place in this World. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the [Read More…]

Upcoming Sexual Intimacy Workshops in December

I’ll be giving two presentations while I’m out in Utah during Christmas break in a few weeks. The first is sponsored by Mormon Matters and A Thoughtful Faith and is called Intimacy and Happiness in Mormon Marriage. The second is sponsored by Mormon Transitions and is called Sexuality After a Mormon Transition. Both have limited [Read More…]

Spiritual Thoughts for the Day

Some scriptures I heard discussed in a sermon today that are so relevant when we think about our relationships with those we care most about – especially in times such as the holiday season upon us, where we can get so carried away with our many to-do lists: The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to [Read More…]

Families Post #4

These stories are very personal and can be emotionally and psychologically triggering. Alyssa Carlson Paquette I’m at work today, and barely able to concentrate. This is the first day our 12yo son is *finally* back at our home, after his usual week at his (gay) mom’s home. He made it halfway through school before he [Read More…]

A Call for Accepting all Families

Families have been widely varied throughout all of history – from how many children, to how those children came to be part of the family, to who is raising the children, etc… When we continue to tout and emphasize the importance of one type of family over others we do harm.  It doesn’t matter how [Read More…]

Upcoming Let’s Talk About Sex Seminar

Let’s Talk About Sex – How to talk about what we don’t know how to talk about! WHEN Thursday, Oct. 22nd, 7-10pm WHERE Utah Valley University Student Life & Wellness Center SL 101 Orem With Certified Sex Therapist, Natasha Helfer Parker MORE INFORMATION For more information and to register for the event, visit the event page on [Read More…]