Perfectionism is a Poser

I’ve been seeing a therapist lately for depression. And one of the things she keeps bringing up is perfectionism. I kind of get what she’s saying. But I want to be the best person I can be. I am overwhelmed on a pretty regular basis as to how to go about this. I have 5 [Read More…]

“Virtue” Reclaimed

I remember being taught in YW and Sunday school as a youth that it would be better to die than live as a rape victim or have sex outside of marriage. That I should defend my virtue “even unto death”. That is so messed up. I’m glad to see the change in the Young Women’s [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

A Critique on “The Great Porn Experiment”

In 2012 Gary Wilson gave a Ted Talk called The Great Porn Experiment where many claims were made that do not have scientific backing. These types of efforts to educate the public backfire by giving people misinformation that then affects such things as relationships, parenting strategies, sexual education, and even mental health treatment. Fight the New [Read More…]

Are Mormon Men Weak Minded?

Yet again we see a story where young women are held accountable for the sexual arousal of their male peers due to their clothing. Utah Cheerleaders Feel ‘Body Shamed’ After Male Classmate Complains That Their Skirts Led to ‘Impure’ Thoughts This seems a silly story to report on, if it wasn’t so prevalent in our [Read More…]

No Repentance Needed for Abuse Survivors!!

A friend shared this talk, Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse by Elder Richard G. Scott, in a FB group I’m a part of and was confused by it. I wondered what you thought. This is a group that supports survivors of childhood abuse.  I believe there are many who have experienced abuse who find this [Read More…]

Upcoming Presentations – Take Advantage

I am often asked if I would be willing to present in areas outside of Salt Lake City. Well, here are two such opportunities!! HOUSTON I’ve been asked to speak at Houston Oasis on October 2, 2016. The title of my presentation will be How do we and Who Gets to Define Healthy Sexuality? and this event is [Read More…]

Messages Teens Pick Up when we Teach Shame-Based Sex Ed

Today’s guest post is written by Maya Dehlin. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Maya is an 18 year old, recent graduate of high school. She received the prestigious Utah’s Sterling Scholar in English, runs her own photography business (Tear Off the Mask) and is currently taking a [Read More…]

The tired question: Do people “choose” to be gay?

Today’s guest post is written by Dr. Jim Pfaus. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Dr. Jim Pfaus is a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Concordia University. He states on his faculty page, “My research is generally concerned with the neurochemical and molecular events that subserve sexual [Read More…]

Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?

The recent article regarding gender and sexual orientation posted in The New Atlantis has started a flurry of discussion in religiously conservative circles. When talking with some colleagues within the sexual field about how we can respond to this, one stated, “It’s crap. That’s the only response it deserves.” And I agree. Yet I know [Read More…]


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