“Virtue” Reclaimed

I remember being taught in YW and Sunday school as a youth that it would be better to die than live as a rape victim or have sex outside of marriage. That I should defend my virtue “even unto death”. That is so messed up. I’m glad to see the change in the Young Women’s [Read More…]

Our child custody arrangement needs to change…

At the time of my divorce I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I was so overwhelmed and wanted the whole thing over as quickly as possible. Looking back I think I conceded too much in regards to the custody arrangements with my children. My ex-husband said things like “I’m the priesthood holder in [Read More…]

A Critique on “The Great Porn Experiment”

In 2012 Gary Wilson gave a Ted Talk called The Great Porn Experiment where many claims were made that do not have scientific backing. These types of efforts to educate the public backfire by giving people misinformation that then affects such things as relationships, parenting strategies, sexual education, and even mental health treatment. Fight the New [Read More…]

I’m aroused… Now what?

So after yesterday’s post I thought I’d offer the following suggestions parents can talk to their adolescents about as strategies they can use when they notice they are experiencing sexual arousal. Notice. Huh…I’m noticing I’m having an arousal response… (this might happen in either an intellectual, emotional or physical way — from a fantasy thought in [Read More…]

Are Mormon Men Weak Minded?

Yet again we see a story where young women are held accountable for the sexual arousal of their male peers due to their clothing. Utah Cheerleaders Feel ‘Body Shamed’ After Male Classmate Complains That Their Skirts Led to ‘Impure’ Thoughts This seems a silly story to report on, if it wasn’t so prevalent in our [Read More…]

Messages Teens Pick Up when we Teach Shame-Based Sex Ed

Today’s guest post is written by Maya Dehlin. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog’s author.  Maya is an 18 year old, recent graduate of high school. She received the prestigious Utah’s Sterling Scholar in English, runs her own photography business (Tear Off the Mask) and is currently taking a [Read More…]

Atlantis Article… Are you kidding me?

The recent article regarding gender and sexual orientation posted in The New Atlantis has started a flurry of discussion in religiously conservative circles. When talking with some colleagues within the sexual field about how we can respond to this, one stated, “It’s crap. That’s the only response it deserves.” And I agree. Yet I know [Read More…]

A Not-A-Mother’s Thoughts For Mother’s Day

Today’s guest post is written by Janell Jensen Gehmlich and is a slightly edited copy of a sacrament meeting talk she was asked to give on Mother’s Day. The original can be found on Childless Mormon Support: Helping Childless LDS Women Find their Place in this World. Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the [Read More…]

Rape Culture Alive and Well

It’s difficult for me when you use such language as “rape culture” to describe our faith.  I love our church and the gospel. And I know the last thing anyone in our church would want is for anyone to get raped. Why do you speak so negatively about our church? Thank you for your question. [Read More…]

Boundaries for Worthiness Interviews

My daughter is turning 12 this week.  The bishopric called to schedule her Beehive interview.  I love our bishop.  He is very humble and trustworthy.  I feel safe with my daughter around him but also don’t want her learning that she must have private interviews with men about her worthiness.  I don’t know what to [Read More…]


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