4 Things I've Learned By Having Four Kids

Changing a diaper faster than a NASCAR pit crew. Good life skill to learn. Distinguishing between a real cry and fake cry within the first two seconds. Another good life skill I've learned compliments of my four kids. On a more serious note, here are four impactful lessons I've learned by having four kids:1. Life isn't about you. That's perhaps the first and biggest lesson any parent has to learn. To be a great parent, you can't be the center of your universe. This lesson extrapolates as … [Read more...]

Dodgeballs and Slinkies

Growing up church sanctuaries were hallowed, untouchable places. From the stained glass to the pews to the chandeliers, the furniture makeup was unchangeable. I could never quite find the Bible verse that said that the church sanctuary had to look like that, but I always assumed it was somewhere in the book of 2 Opinions. In contrast the meeting rooms for kids and youth were always spartan in comparison. Cinderblock walls, a few posters or bean bags if we were lucky. It was apparent quickly … [Read more...]

3 Things I Tell All Young Parents

Last night at our Parent/Child Dedication Service I had the opportunity to share three words of wisdom to young parents as they start out this incredible journey of parenthood. I thought I'd share those same three thoughts with you: 1. The best gift you can give your children is a healthy marriage. More than a good education, more than strong athletic opportunities, more than exposure to the arts, the best gift you can give your children is a healthy and vibrant marriage. Study a … [Read more...]

The Greatest Thing About Having Four Kids

I should probably put something sentimental here, something like 'there's always peace and joy in the house,' but that would be a misrepresentation of reality. I've got four kids ages 7 and under. Sometimes there's more crying than joy (especially when more than one of them gets going at once!). To be completely honest, parenting four young kids is exhausting. I love it and wouldn't have it any other way, but my kids wear me out. Robin and I try and trade off nights to actually sleep (one of us … [Read more...]

12 Things You'll Learn After Twelve Years of Marriage

Yesterday my gorgeous wife and I celebrated twelve years of marriage. I've blogged about marriage many times, but my anniversary is another opportunity to share what I'm learning along the way. Here are 12 things you'll learn after twelve years of marriage:1. You'll look back at your wedding photos and say, "Who are those kids?"2. Being knee deep in parenting, you'll think back and wonder, "What did we do with all that free time we had before we had kids?"3. You'll learn which fights are … [Read more...]

The Difference 7 Years Can Make

Seven years ago, the narrative of Robin and I's marriage was that we were the young couple that couldn't have kids. Then our oldest son Zeke was born (seven years ago today). Two and a half months later we would meet him for the first time and take him home to adopt him. And then we met Shepherd two years later. Another two years went by and then God blew our minds and we had our first natural born son, Lincoln.Today we're meeting our little girl Elle who will complete our family. Her full … [Read more...]

How to Keep Your Kids From Becoming 'Punk' Kids

We all know those kids: the 'punk' kids. The ones who throw a tantrum in the grocery store. The ones who have an unnecessary meltdown on the ball field. The ones who act at least five years younger than their age. The ones to completely disrespect their parents in public. The 'punk' kids. Lack of discipline in families is all around us.What contributes to it? You can't discount the sin nature inside of them, creating a gravitational pull towards selfishness. Busyness plays a role, as we're … [Read more...]

11 Reasons Why Marriage is Worth It

A few days ago my local newspaper listed the names of those getting married and those getting divorced. Want to guess the score? 18 marriages, 38 divorces. Too many marriages are ending in divorce. The past two posts I talked about why marriages fail and how to improve your marriage. Today I'm giving you eleven reasons why marriage is worth fighting for.1. A deeper love than you'll experience anywhere else. There is an intimacy and transparency that I've only been able to find in a marriage. … [Read more...]

Six Traditions That Are Killing the Church (Part 2)

Last post I started a three part series on Six (Modern-Day) Traditions That Are Killing the Church. These traditions have nothing to do with style of music, whether the pastor uses a pulpit or round table, or whether the people come dressed in suits or blue jeans. There are great churches on both sides of those divides. These traditions are a little more insidious, a little more difficult to unearth. Here are traditions three and four:3. Expecting the church to disciple your kids. This used to … [Read more...]

Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption, by Katie Davis

Kisses from Katie wrecked me. I knew a little bit of her story, so I thought I was prepared to hear her heart-wrenching story of life in a third-world country. I was wrong. If you have a soul inside of you, you cannot encounter stories of poor, neglected and abused children fending for themselves in Uganda and not have your heart ripped out a little bit.Katie Davis is a 24-year-old who grew up in Brentwood, TN with a life typical of many Christian girls raised in America. Yet she willingly … [Read more...]