MTV Family Covenant

Over the past two weeks at MTVchurch, we've shared what I've called the "MTV Family Covenant." It's our commitment to one another as a church family. It encompasses our driving passion of creating contagious communities of hope as well as our foundational practices (we do life together, we serve not sit, we breathe hope, we embrace the messes). Several church members have asked for a copy of it, so here it is. May this covenant truly become who we are as a church family: We are family. I will n … [Read more...]

4 Ways to Lean Into the Power of Relationships This Christmas

I think deep down we all know that Christmas isn't about retail, it's about relationships. People who have a difficult Christmas usually don't suffer from a quality of retail but a quality of relationships. So if the best Christmas ever is all about relationships, how can we rediscover the beauty and value of relationships this Christmas? How can we lean into and leverage relationships for the best Christmas ever?Let me give you four distinct ways that can make the biggest difference: 1. … [Read more...]

Give Me All Your Unwanted Babies Please

Share this please. Spread the word. Make this go viral. I'm serious. If you're a mother in a desperate moment, and if you're considering doing harm to your child because you can't take it anymore, please don't. Contact me. My wife and I will raise your child in a loving, warm, healthy Christian family.Over the last two days I've read two horrific accounts of child neglect and abuse. The first was of an 8-year-old charged with manslaughter in the death of a 1-year-old. I have an 8-year-old. … [Read more...]

3 Simple Ways to Build More Intimacy in Your Family

Life just went from 0 to 100 mph in many households as school has started back and fall sports are about to kick up. In the midst of the busyness of a typical American life, how can you build intimacy your family? How can you make sure the deep connection many of you enjoyed growing up with your family is passed down to the next generation? Are are three places to start:1. Create margin. Intimacy isn’t built when you shuttle kids from one activity to the next and when you and your spouse … [Read more...]

4 Things That Will Wreck Your Marriage If You're Not Careful

No one intentionally sets out to wreck a marriage. Everyone wants your marriage to work, at least at first. That's why weddings are beautiful and divorce proceedings aren't. When counseling couples about to get married, I share with them four things that can wreck their marriage if they're not careful. 1. Family of Origin - How you saw your parents interact is going to be the default mode for how you treat your spouse. If your home was broken or dysfunctional, then that is a hu … [Read more...]

3 Ways to Be Different on Purpose at Home

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" Romans 12:2. Don't merely reflect the values of this world; change them. Be a change agent. Be different on purpose. Here are three ways you can live this out in your home:1. Bring God into the home. Don’t just go to church together. Don’t just mention God at meal times. Create conversations throughout the day that center around God. I know it should be obvious, but if the only time God is talke … [Read more...]

4 Things I've Learned By Having Four Kids

Changing a diaper faster than a NASCAR pit crew. Good life skill to learn. Distinguishing between a real cry and fake cry within the first two seconds. Another good life skill I've learned compliments of my four kids. On a more serious note, here are four impactful lessons I've learned by having four kids:1. Life isn't about you. That's perhaps the first and biggest lesson any parent has to learn. To be a great parent, you can't be the center of your universe. This lesson extrapolates as … [Read more...]

When Dads Are in Charge [Video]

Recently on stage we showed what happens when dads are left in charge of the house. Take a moment and watch this funny video, then go hug a mom somewhere! … [Read more...]

"Why Did Someone Give Me Away?"

Try answering that question for your seven-year-old adopted son. By all other accounts it was a normal conversation and a normal trip to school. Zeke had just met one of his reading goals at school and I was building him up, really trying to encourage him in his reading. And then Zeke asked the question that is always bubbling below the surface for an adopted child, "Why did someone give me away?" To him it was a normal question. So I appeared normal and answered in the same tone of voice I'd … [Read more...]

6 Ordinary Things You Can Give Your Kids That Will Have Extraordinary Results.

Here is some incredible parenting advice I learned from Reggie Joiner's book Playing for Keeps. He makes the argument that the most important commodity you have with your children is time. Time makes what matters matter more. If you give your children six ordinary things consistently over time, you'll build a legacy in them that will last a lifetime.TIME over time gives someone a sense of history. Each week as a microcosm doesn't seem like much. You're making dinner, you're changing a … [Read more...]