Dear Newly-graduated Police Officer

Dear newly-graduated police officer God bless you. God bless you and keep you and give you the patience, skill, and eventually the wisdom to always do your job in a professional manner. God give you the ability to hold your tongue when someone insults you curses at you. God give you the ability to maintain your composure when someone gets in your face, yelling, striking you with spittle. God give you the ability to defuse and de-escalate a situation with your body posture, words, and even … [Read more...]

It’s a Black Issue. It’s not a Black Issue

The murder of Sam DuBose is horrifying and I am very happy that the now-fired officer is being indicted. Another Black family has to mourn the untimely death of their family member. We have to continue the ‪#‎blacklivesmatter‬ movement and work to bring fairness to the criminal justice system. This includes but is not limited to making sure police officers are recruited and trained in a proper manner, bodycams are made mandatory, racial profiling is eliminated, police offenders are brought to jus … [Read more...]

How can a white chick from the suburbs honor the memory of Trayvon and Michael?

This is a hard post for me to write.  I"m a white American.  My heritage here in the US goes back all the way to Revolutionary times, with ancestors arriving mostly from the British Isles.  I'm white, pale, pasty, European, don't-stand-in-front-of-the-fridge-when-taking-a-picture-white.  I live in the suburbs of a typical American town with my husband, five kids, six chickens, and a cat who is currently sleeping off a food coma on the sofa.  I live a modest life, but compared to many of my fell … [Read more...]

Why does the menstruating woman not pray or fast? A personal and practical possible answer

As Salaamu Alaikum. I have had some Muslim friends asking questions about certain rules and regulations in Islam. Specifically, it was asked "Why don't we women pray or fast during our menses?".Now, the short answer to that is "God said so". It is agreed upon by all the scholars that the teachings in the Qur'an and in the Sunnah (the way of Prophet Muhammad, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) indicate that women are not to pray or to fast when they are on their menstrual cycle. We … [Read more...]

A Muslim on Memorial Day

 As with many other non-Muslim holidays, many Muslims look upon Memorial Day with mixed feelings. Of course, it's not just us; a lot of Americans have mixed feelings, wanting to honor those who have died in service to the country, but conflicted because so many of those deaths were unnecessary because the wars or conflicts were misguided and mis-fought. When American soldiers, sailors, or Marines have gone to countries where Muslims are the majority and have shot them, bombed them, … [Read more...]

The Duck War on Dynasty Christmas With a Side of Dead Famous People

Howdy!  Yeah, it's been a while since I've posted.  Quite a while.  Shame on me.  Shame on my brain, more like.  In times of stress it shuts down all non-essential services and leaves me with the ability to make pancakes, tie shoes, write in short paragraphs, and ignore the fact that I forgot to put money in the kids' school lunch accounts.  Damn brain. I'm still emerging from the brain fog, but man, there has been SO much going on.  People dying, famous and infamous people making shocking prono … [Read more...]

The Transgender Muslim

Transgender Muslims?  This has been a thing on my Facebook feed recently.  I even received a private message asking me about it.  Well, I'm not a scholar and I'm not a doctor and I'm not a psychologist, so you are going to get my complete off-the-cuff uneducated layperson's point of view:DNA.  It makes us what we are.  I went to school with a girl who had very masculine attributes.  Turns out she had a genetic mutation that gave her some extra male genes or something.  She was always the husk … [Read more...]

Why I am Opposed to a Million Muslim March on the Anniversary of 9/11

This might tick some people off but let me put it out there:  I am emphatically NOT in favor of a "Million Muslim March" on the anniversary of 9/11.  There, I said it. The founders of the march say that they want to reclaim 9/11, but I say simply, you cannot.  You cannot "reclaim" 9/11.  It is seared into the consciousness of every American and many people around the world.  It is a day when the world stopped.  I remember that I was in the kitchen baking bread when I heard the first news of a "s … [Read more...]

Ramadan Thoughts So Far; Kinda the Same as Non-Ramadan Thoughts, Plus Trayvon

Today is Sunday, the fourteenth of July.  I've been fasting since Tuesday.  I'm starting to get into the swing of things, though getting up at o-dark-thirty to eat when I'm barely conscious is something I'll never be good at.  To the point; my breakfast this morning was two slices of leftover cold pizza and an ice cream sandwich.  Took my vitamins, glugged my water, prayed, went back to bed. I'm trying to pace myself.  I have been reading Qur'an and working on my memorization more, but other tha … [Read more...]

One Pair of Shoes

I am an anti-fashionista.  I know nothing about style and I care nothing about style.  I shop at thrift stores.  I shop sales.  I buy for my kids first and myself last.  I buy cute dresses to wear around the house so I won't look like a schlub in front of hubby, but I don't obsess over shoes or drool over purses.  Do I have to turn in my woman card? Recently I was thinking about my shoes.  Those shoes, the ones in the picture.  I bought them from the thrift store sometime maybe last fall.  They … [Read more...]


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