The Four Major Modes of Mixed Marriages


Okay.  Not being one to shy from controversy, I'm back to write about marriage again!  Yay!I got a LOT of response on my Facebook wall over the status update regarding marrying men who come from a very different culture.  I would say it was about 80% "You go girl!" and 20% "You are backbiting!".  It is a very emotional topic and one of the most important topics in our Ummah here in the West.  We have the luxury of not being under threat of war or starvation, so we can worry about things like … [Read more...]

If you are a Westerner about to marry a “traditional” Muslim – from a Facebook post

So, this happened on my wall the other day.  I have mostly been posting on Facebook instead of using my blog because I have been suffering worse than usual from brain fog and stress, and it's easier for me to slap a few sentences together rather than having to come up with actual coherent paragraphs, but some days I just have a topic in me and it pops out.  Here it is, as it was when I posted it as a status update.  InshaAllah I'll write an follow-up here on my blog in a bit:Oh, before I … [Read more...]

The Duck War on Dynasty Christmas With a Side of Dead Famous People

Howdy!  Yeah, it's been a while since I've posted.  Quite a while.  Shame on me.  Shame on my brain, more like.  In times of stress it shuts down all non-essential services and leaves me with the ability to make pancakes, tie shoes, write in short paragraphs, and ignore the fact that I forgot to put money in the kids' school lunch accounts.  Damn brain. I'm still emerging from the brain fog, but man, there has been SO much going on.  People dying, famous and infamous people making shocking prono … [Read more...]

“Islamic Beauty Pageant” is an Oxymoron

Here's my issue with the "Muslim Beauty Pageant" that Miss Nairobi won. I love my Muslim sisters and I am very proud of those who are strong in their Islam and who can recite Qur'an. But let's be real. You can recite Qur'an all day long, but if you are not LIVING by what the Qur'an teaches then your words are just meaningless drivel no matter how beautiful the voice with which you recite.  Beauty contests are exercises in tabarruj, and tabarruj is forbidden in Islam. What is tabarruj? It i … [Read more...]

And Now Back to Our Regularly Scheduled Rants and Raves….

I made a conscious decision not to write anything on my blog or on Facebook on the anniversary of 9/11. I knew that the day would be fraught with emotion, and anything I would write would either offend or be so vapid as to be meaningless. I wrote one quick status update and that's it. I also knew I'd be in a bad mood anyway because I had to get on the phone with ebay and let me tell you, that is the quickest route to a migraine headache second only to sucking up an extra-large Slurpee in one … [Read more...]

Why I am Opposed to a Million Muslim March on the Anniversary of 9/11

This might tick some people off but let me put it out there:  I am emphatically NOT in favor of a "Million Muslim March" on the anniversary of 9/11.  There, I said it. The founders of the march say that they want to reclaim 9/11, but I say simply, you cannot.  You cannot "reclaim" 9/11.  It is seared into the consciousness of every American and many people around the world.  It is a day when the world stopped.  I remember that I was in the kitchen baking bread when I heard the first news of a "s … [Read more...]

How can we live a “normal” life when the world around us is burning?

  Most everyone knows about the events in Egypt now. Much of the violence has unfolded in full view of video cameras. I have seen bodies piled in the mosques, I have seen a woman in niqab shot to death by a sniper, I have seen grown men weeping over the bodies of their fallen sons. It is a tragedy on every level and it seems to be something that will not be resolved soon.A friend of mine asked today how one can cope with life in the face of such tragedy. Let's not forget, Egypt is only … [Read more...]

Honestly, Sometimes Eid Just Isn’t That Fun…. And That’s Okay.

Alhamdulillah, I had a really nice Eid with my family on Thursday.  I had bought my daughter her first abaya and she looked so cute, mashaAllah, with her long robe and pink hijaab.  My abaya was nice and looked good even with a pink hijaab.  I had not intended to wear a pink hijaab, but my washing machine broke on Wednesday evening as I was just starting the laundry marathon.  I had to scramble around to make sure the boys had britches and I had something to cover my head, so pink it was. The pr … [Read more...]

Ramadan Thoughts So Far; Kinda the Same as Non-Ramadan Thoughts, Plus Trayvon

Today is Sunday, the fourteenth of July.  I've been fasting since Tuesday.  I'm starting to get into the swing of things, though getting up at o-dark-thirty to eat when I'm barely conscious is something I'll never be good at.  To the point; my breakfast this morning was two slices of leftover cold pizza and an ice cream sandwich.  Took my vitamins, glugged my water, prayed, went back to bed. I'm trying to pace myself.  I have been reading Qur'an and working on my memorization more, but other tha … [Read more...]

Can a Muslim Man REALLY Beat His Wife? The Most Misunderstood Verses

Well, as usual, my Facebook page has served as a springboard for another blog post.  Here's what's up.  I had seen some postings by friends who are going through divorces, usually as a result of domestic violence suffered at the hands of their husbands.  Many Muslim women, especially reverts, have the incorrect understanding that according to Islam, they are supposed to just put up with the violence, be patient, and expect their reward in Jannah.  I rather forcefully disagreed, as I posted on my … [Read more...]