The Elephant in the (Prayer) Room 2

So, now that we know that domestic violence is not allowed in Islam, what do we do about it?  Well, if I were Empress of the World, I would make proclamations and put up signs on every street corner making it a crime for a man to hit a woman.  I would put on TV programs 24/7 to teach the truth of Islam and make it required for men and women to watch and learn.  I would require every Muslim man and every Muslim woman to write an essay on "Why we don't smack each other around" in order to make … [Read more...]

The Elephant in the (Prayer) Room

So this morning I'm dragging my way through the morning routine, waiting for the coffee to brew, helping the kids find socks and reminding the two elementary school boys that yes, they do have to wear underwear as they are dressing for school.  I was up way too late last night.  It seems my husband and I have our best discussions late at night, after the kids are in bed and the house has finally settled down to silence.  We talk about everything from the trivial to the profound, and since … [Read more...]

How Dare I Impose My Beliefs on Others ?

  Okay, after I frantically deleted a raft of comments from my blog (positive, negative, and caramel-covered nutball), I felt a lot better and more at ease.  I didn't want my comments section to blow up into a holy war Islamophobe-fest.  There are so many nice, thoughtful Muslims and non-Muslims - including you, Lew - but there are some instigators whose only desire is to foment hate, and I have neither the time nor desire to run herd on a hundred comments after a busy day of running … [Read more...]

Sometimes, a Cucumber is Just a Cucumber

I don't get out much.  Happens when you're a work-at-home mom of five children, three cats, and one Egyptian hubby who loves my home cooked food.  Much of the information I get about the 'outside world' comes from TV and my Facebook feed.  A few days ago my wall started lighting up with stories about a sheikh - still unidentified and possibly imaginary - who supposedly said that female Muslims should not be allowed to handle cucumbers, zucchini, or other phallic produce.  It was one of those … [Read more...]

My All American Muslim Family. Too Boring for TLC

As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah. Work piled up on my desk (and on the floor, and in the closet, and out in the storage shed), a house full of sniffling, dry hacking, post-nasal-dripping children, more scandalous news than you can shake a stick at, and still I can't think of what to write about.  An amusing anecdote about the children?  My ire at Lowe's pulling commercials from "All-American Muslim"?  Joy over having plenty of coffee in the house?  My brain is full but all my thoughts … [Read more...]

What happened to that sister I used to know?

As Salaamu Alaikum (Peace be upon you) Okay, this next bit that I just wrote I really hesitated to post.  It's a fictionalized account of one side of a telephone conversation about a Muslim named Aisha.  I want to say beforehand that I know there are many many good Muslim marriages, and there are wonderful cross-cultural marriages (such as my own) where the husband and wife are loving, dynamic, confident about themselves, and who tackle the world as a team.  That being said, there seem to … [Read more...]

So, how may people threw rocks at you today?

  As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah This is a message specifically to my brothers and sisters in Islam: Sometimes we run short of patience.  It's normal.  We are, after all, only  human.  But we are also Muslim, so we are held to a higher standard.  We are supposed to the upright Ummah, the nation, not of borders and ethnic lines, but of belief and behavior.  We believe in One God.  We behave like role models for mankind. Why, then, do I so often hear my Muslim brothers … [Read more...]

The True Beauty of a Woman? My Idea is Different from Hers

Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah Two things hit my Facebook feed today that I felt compelled to comment on.  One was a bit of prose by a Muslim sister of mine.  I'll post it here and then comment on it: THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN : The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SILENCE rather than her speech The beauty of a woman lies IN HER VEIL rather than her face The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SUBMISSION rather that her leadership The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SMILE rather than her … [Read more...]

The Second Half of the First Day of Eid

Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah Well, I am happy to report that the second half of our first day of Eid went very well, so we managed to string together a really good day, alhamdulillah. We relaxed at home for a while and then piled everyone in the car to head to the park. First hiccup in the day; hubby had misread his email and we weren't supposed to have a day at the "park" but rather a day at a place called Funland in a shopping center named "Central Park". Well, there was a park in there … [Read more...]

In the Midst of the Eid

Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah Well, it's about 2 pm on the first day of Eid.  Children have been dressed, hustled into their carseats, unloaded, shepherded to the Eid hall, given candy, shushed, given more candy, chased around the hall, had pictures taken, been told "mashaAllah" a hundred times, loaded back into the van, driven home, fed a huge pancake and french toast breakfast, changed into play clothes, and given their Eid loot.  Things are quiet at the moment.  The kids are playing … [Read more...]


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