Getting Off on the Right Foot: Creating a Successful… Whatever!

How-to books, videos, and seminars for budding entrepreneurs number in the thousands.  Successful business owners share tips over coffee and sales figures.  Hacks self-publish get rich quick schemes and late night infomercials tell you how to make millions selling on eBay or flipping properties.  What works, and what doesn't? What works is passion.  First and foremost, you have to love your idea.  You have to love it so much that you interrupt yourself in conversations … [Read more...]

Getting My Ramadan Mojo Back

Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahBismillahi Rahmani RahimOkay, I have a confession to make.  I rarely have a good Ramadan.  What is supposed to be a month of spirituality, sacrifice, contemplation, and joy has usually been for me well, kinda like every other month of the year.  My husband, bless his heart, is not an organizer and not the kind of person who himself will "upsell" the season or try to ramp us up.  I am the one who says "Let's get off caffeine and fast on Monday and … [Read more...]

The Apparent Injustice of this World

Rabbi Schmuley Boteach wrote an article that appeared on decrying the senseless brutal murder of a young boy on his way home from day camp.  This boy lived in the supposedly safe and insular Orthodox Jewish neighborhood of Borough Park in New York.  This boy, Leiby Kletzky, had only eight short blocks to navigate.  He became lost and stopped to ask a stranger for directions.  You might think, hmm, didn't his parents raise him better?  But this … [Read more...]

Inter-cultural Marriage – A Word to the Brothers

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahMarriage is hard.  I don't care if you grew up on the same street, fell in love in grade school, have the exact same ethnic background, and have a million dollars and mansions in five countries.  Marriage is hard.  When you marry someone from another culture, marriage is harder.I've spoken about marriages between people of different faiths from time to time.  In general, though men are permitted to marry chaste women from … [Read more...]

I’m Going to Treat My Kids More Like Someone Else’s Kids

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI've been looking at myself lately and I don't much like what I see.  I've been short-tempered with my children.  More than short-tempered.  I've yelled at them and been harsh with them.  I could blame my cranky attitude on being sleep-deprived or on the fact that I have to tell them to do stuff ten times before they do it, but I can't put my bad behavior off on anyone.  I have to own it.  It's my fault.  … [Read more...]

Wanting a sofa is not a sin….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah DISCLAIMER:  I have to do this before articles where I write about stuff that ticks me off:  I am NOT talking from personal experience here in this following blog post.  My husband, mashaAllah, is kind, generous, wants me to buy stuff for myself, take time for myself, relax, enjoy, etc., etc.  He is not a miser and I am not talking about or thinking about him when I write what is below.  He agrees with what I am writing. Okay, disc … [Read more...]

The Blessing of Being Sick

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI took sick on Wednesday night.  Not a cold sick, not even a feverish flu sick, or a yucky stomach-virus sick.  This was a different sick.  About four in the morning I roused to nurse the baby and noticed that when I changed sides and turned my head I felt dizzy.  I went back to sleep but by morning the vertigo was in full force.  As soon as I stood up, the room started spinning and my stomach clutched with … [Read more...]

Ode to the Zombie Mommy – Part The First

The Zombie Mommy  You've seen herStanding in line at the grocery storeLooking into the far distance as the bag boy repeatedly intones "paper or plastic?"At the parkStanding behind a child sitting forlornly on a swing, motionless, as her unfocused eyes see nothing and she is unable to provide momentum for even a modest back-and-forthShe's thereSitting in the drive-thru at Taco Bell, the lady cashier tapping on her car window trying to hand out a meal she doesn't remember orderingShe's in the … [Read more...]

Don’t Touch Me, I’m Trying to Be Spiritual!

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI'm following a gentleman on Facebook who is visiting many faiths by "trying on" each one for a month (see Project Conversion) .  He has dipped into Bahai, Hinduism, and several other religions, and this month he is learning about Buddhism.  In his most recent blog post, he mentioned that his wife was having trouble with one of the aspects of being married to someone who was seeing what it was like to be a monk.  … [Read more...]

Why I Don’t Like the Idea of the “Holy Spirit”

A Christian friend on my FB list posted this quote: I have a glove here in my hand. The glove cannot do anything by itself, but when my hand is in it, it can do many things. True, it is not the glove, but my hand in the glove that acts. We are gloves. It is the Holy Spirit in us who is the hand, who does the job. We have to make room for the hand so that every finger is filled. ~Corrie ten Boom I was immediately struck by the thought that I really don't like this quote.  Now, of course … [Read more...]