Do not apologize for sticking to your guns and having standards

My Muslim brothers and sisters, do NOT apologize for living according to Islam. I have had people try to make me feel guilty for saying "50 Shades of Grey" is smut, and that I should not judge because I had not read the book or seen the movie. If you are not Muslim and you are my Facebook friend or you follow me so that you see some of what I write, you do need to be aware that as a practicing Muslim I am pretty conservative, especially in regards to things that are considered mainstream here … [Read more...]

Give up something forbidden for Allah’s sake

Okay, my dear Muslim brothers and sisters, I'm going to write about a topic that many of you will feel conflicted about.  It's TV.  Ah, the television, that miracle window into a wider world.  Most homes in the US have more than one TV, and oftentimes we have it on from daybreak until bedtime. Muslims watch TV.  Okay, no problem.  There's news (though usually biased against Muslims, it can be useful sometimes).  There's sports, there's food television, there are nature programs.  There are actua … [Read more...]

Why does the menstruating woman not pray or fast? A personal and practical possible answer

As Salaamu Alaikum. I have had some Muslim friends asking questions about certain rules and regulations in Islam. Specifically, it was asked "Why don't we women pray or fast during our menses?".Now, the short answer to that is "God said so". It is agreed upon by all the scholars that the teachings in the Qur'an and in the Sunnah (the way of Prophet Muhammad, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) indicate that women are not to pray or to fast when they are on their menstrual cycle. We … [Read more...]

A Muslim on Memorial Day

 As with many other non-Muslim holidays, many Muslims look upon Memorial Day with mixed feelings. Of course, it's not just us; a lot of Americans have mixed feelings, wanting to honor those who have died in service to the country, but conflicted because so many of those deaths were unnecessary because the wars or conflicts were misguided and mis-fought. When American soldiers, sailors, or Marines have gone to countries where Muslims are the majority and have shot them, bombed them, … [Read more...]

The Four Major Modes of Mixed Marriages

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Okay.  Not being one to shy from controversy, I'm back to write about marriage again!  Yay!I got a LOT of response on my Facebook wall over the status update regarding marrying men who come from a very different culture.  I would say it was about 80% "You go girl!" and 20% "You are backbiting!".  It is a very emotional topic and one of the most important topics in our Ummah here in the West.  We have the luxury of not being under threat of war or starvation, so we can worry about things like … [Read more...]

The Transgender Muslim

Transgender Muslims?  This has been a thing on my Facebook feed recently.  I even received a private message asking me about it.  Well, I'm not a scholar and I'm not a doctor and I'm not a psychologist, so you are going to get my complete off-the-cuff uneducated layperson's point of view:DNA.  It makes us what we are.  I went to school with a girl who had very masculine attributes.  Turns out she had a genetic mutation that gave her some extra male genes or something.  She was always the husk … [Read more...]

Why I am Opposed to a Million Muslim March on the Anniversary of 9/11

This might tick some people off but let me put it out there:  I am emphatically NOT in favor of a "Million Muslim March" on the anniversary of 9/11.  There, I said it. The founders of the march say that they want to reclaim 9/11, but I say simply, you cannot.  You cannot "reclaim" 9/11.  It is seared into the consciousness of every American and many people around the world.  It is a day when the world stopped.  I remember that I was in the kitchen baking bread when I heard the first news of a "s … [Read more...]

Ramadan Thoughts So Far; Kinda the Same as Non-Ramadan Thoughts, Plus Trayvon

Today is Sunday, the fourteenth of July.  I've been fasting since Tuesday.  I'm starting to get into the swing of things, though getting up at o-dark-thirty to eat when I'm barely conscious is something I'll never be good at.  To the point; my breakfast this morning was two slices of leftover cold pizza and an ice cream sandwich.  Took my vitamins, glugged my water, prayed, went back to bed. I'm trying to pace myself.  I have been reading Qur'an and working on my memorization more, but other tha … [Read more...]

Can a Muslim Man REALLY Beat His Wife? The Most Misunderstood Verses

Well, as usual, my Facebook page has served as a springboard for another blog post.  Here's what's up.  I had seen some postings by friends who are going through divorces, usually as a result of domestic violence suffered at the hands of their husbands.  Many Muslim women, especially reverts, have the incorrect understanding that according to Islam, they are supposed to just put up with the violence, be patient, and expect their reward in Jannah.  I rather forcefully disagreed, as I posted on my … [Read more...]

Ramadan Moonsighting; A Lesson in “Divide and Conquer”

Every year it's the same thing.  An epic battle rages on the internet between two different factions of Muslims.  I'm not talking Sunni vs Shia here - I'm talking about The Moonsighting Wars. Okay, here's the thing.  The Muslim religious calendar follows the lunar cycle.  We keep track of the moon and count the new month when the first sliver of a new moon is sighted every month.  I have a little calendar thingy on my iPhone.  It tells me that today is the sixteenth of the month of Sha'abaan.  T … [Read more...]


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